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Old 01-19-2014, 12:34 PM
 
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That's a woman.
He was talking about himself.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:35 PM
 
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Many men who should be attracted to women, the OP describes in her thread, aren't because they know they are vapid and a waste of time.
Curious .... why do you say that? Is there some underlying bias that beautiful people are superficial etc. etc.?
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:37 PM
 
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He was talking about himself.
I got that. He was also talking about you.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:42 PM
 
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Curious .... why do you say that? Is there some underlying bias that beautiful people are superficial etc. etc.?
I'm a woman and have hung with women and none of us had the same criteria for what "attractive" or "beautiful' means. It's why were able to be friends for so long as we weren't competing with each other over the same type of man. It's really just that simply.

"Beautiful," is something I have been called all my life and I know and knew that was not going to be enough.

My mother, who is still very attractive, lived by the mantra 'All men want is sex." As I grew up I noticed this was not true.

The men in my social circle are generally more established in their life and their careers and will often turn down women one would think they would be attracted to. Time and time again, within my social circle, it's because they found them too vapid.

I even had two men remark, "There's more to a relationship than just sex" and they were the most successful in dating what they considered attractive and it wasn't settling by a long shot for them.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Depends on the guy. Some are, some aren't. To be perfectly blunt, if no men ever hit on you - I don't think it's because you are too beautiful.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:49 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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Curious .... why do you say that? Is there some underlying bias that beautiful people are superficial etc. etc.?
If you filled a room with 8's+, I bet a third of them would have some major personality defect, yes. But then the other 2/3 not so much. I've met plenty of beautiful women who were amazing in every sense of the word and plenty of unattractive women who had terrible personalities. To say that all beautiful women are vapid or gold-diggers or shallow or dumb is just ridiculous.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:50 PM
 
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I got that. He was also talking about you.
This guy. He get it. Meaning he agrees with what I'm saying and gets it. And I'm not "This guy" since I'm a woman.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:50 PM
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If you filled a room with 8's+, I bet a third of them would have some major personality defect, yes. But then the other 2/3 not so much. I've met plenty of beautiful women who were amazing in every sense of the word and plenty of unattractive women who had terrible personalities. To say that all beautiful women are vapid or gold-diggers or shallow or dumb is just ridiculous.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Hell, NY
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Many men who should be attracted to women, the OP describes in her thread, aren't because they know they are vapid and a waste of time.

That's an awful generalization if I must say. Yes, there are some beautiful people who aren't worth sh it in the long run. However, in my experience, I've dated some very sweet, thoughtful people who happened to be beautiful. I really hate the whole "stereotype" that all good looking people are awful, yet the average ones are all the "salt of the earth." Which couldn't be more wrong in my eyes. I've seen some of the worst attitudes on the "average" women per se' then ever by the "good looking" ones. Perhaps, they are just jaded. I don't know, nor do I care enough to figure it out. The bottom line is that there are many good looking people who are truly decent people and many average women who are decent as well. There are also many average men/ women who are not nice at all. The same I'm sure could be said for good looking people. Judge a person by their character not by their looks.
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Old 01-19-2014, 12:51 PM
 
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If you filled a room with 8's+, I bet a third of them would have some major personality defect, yes. But then the other 2/3 not so much. I've met plenty of beautiful women who were amazing in every sense of the word and plenty of unattractive women who had terrible personalities. To say that all beautiful women are vapid or gold-diggers or shallow or dumb is just ridiculous.
I didn't say they all were. I clarified my statement with my experience and I said, within my social circle I have found this. I also reinterated, what is "Attractive" by one is NOT 'attractive' to someone else. It's totally subjective and you cannot judge what one finds 'attractive' on an entire gender of women or men.

That tall, leggy blonde you think every one is staring at and drooling over, may actually be unattractive to someone else.
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