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Old 01-19-2014, 12:54 PM
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That's an awful generalization if I must say. Yes, there are some beautiful people who aren't worth sh it in the long run. However, in my experience, I've dated some very sweet, thoughtful people who happened to be beautiful. I really hate the whole "stereotype" that all good looking people are awful, yet the average ones are all the "salt of the earth." Which couldn't be more wrong in my eyes. I've seen some of the worst attitudes on the "average" women per se' then ever by the "good looking" ones. Perhaps, they are just jaded. I don't know, nor do I care enough to figure it out. The bottom line is that there are many good looking people who are truly decent people and many average women who are decent as well. There are also many average men/ women who are not nice at all. The same I'm sure could be said for good looking people. Judge a person by their character not by their looks.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:07 PM
 
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That's an awful generalization if I must say. Yes, there are some beautiful people who aren't worth sh it in the long run. However, in my experience, I've dated some very sweet, thoughtful people who happened to be beautiful. I really hate the whole "stereotype" that all good looking people are awful, yet the average ones are all the "salt of the earth." Which couldn't be more wrong in my eyes. I've seen some of the worst attitudes on the "average" women per se' then ever by the "good looking" ones. Perhaps, they are just jaded. I don't know, nor do I care enough to figure it out. The bottom line is that there are many good looking people who are truly decent people and many average women who are decent as well. There are also many average men/ women who are not nice at all. The same I'm sure could be said for good looking people. Judge a person by their character not by their looks.
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Unfortunately neither of you can read. The statement "Many men' does not indicate they all are. Many is not all. So, you messed that one up with a quick trigger finger on reposting and your remarks.

MJ17 just likes to stalk my posts and is acting like a juvenile.

Neither of you even went to the following post, where I was asked about my statements as well, and I didn't answer with generalities or in a hostile manner. I simply explained further my observations.

Again, many is not all, and I am not hostile.

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Many men who should be attracted to women, the OP describes in her thread, aren't because they know they are vapid and a waste of time.
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I'm a woman and have hung with women and none of us had the same criteria for what "attractive" or "beautiful' means. It's why were able to be friends for so long as we weren't competing with each other over the same type of man. It's really just that simply.

"Beautiful," is something I have been called all my life and I know and knew that was not going to be enough.

My mother, who is still very attractive, lived by the mantra 'All men want is sex." As I grew up I noticed this was not true.

The men in my social circle are generally more established in their life and their careers and will often turn down women one would think they would be attracted to. Time and time again, within my social circle, it's because they found them too vapid.

I even had two men remark, "There's more to a relationship than just sex" and they were the most successful in dating what they considered attractive and it wasn't settling by a long shot for them.


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I didn't say they all were. I clarified my statement with my experience and I said, within my social circle I have found this. I also reinterated, what is "Attractive" by one is NOT 'attractive' to someone else. It's totally subjective and you cannot judge what one finds 'attractive' on an entire gender of women or men.

That tall, leggy blonde you think every one is staring at and drooling over, may actually be unattractive to someone else.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:18 PM
 
Location: South Africa
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Default Why do men avoid dating/marrying sexy women?

What exactly is so wrong about sex appeal? How come guys go on about it being a bad idea to be with a sexy woman (outside of for sex), and why is it definitely a no-no to be with a VERY sexy woman? I don't at all mean any kind of twerksome hoe - I mean that lady who walks into the room with a killa body and a regal air and owns the room in seconds with her sex appeal and aura alone. That kind of sexy woman, the one who looks sexy fully clothed. Can the fellas out there please explain the reasoning behind this discrimination against uber-sexiness? Part 2 of the question I guess, is that if you find a woman mesmerisingly sexy, can you ever move past this and just appreciate her as a person? Will it always cloud (even sully) your interactions with her?
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:19 PM
 
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Hypocritical and two-faced, you have lost all my attention and you will be blocked for my viewing pleasure, good day.
Nope, it's not and my posts do not say all women or all men. Your's did in the other thread you have chosen to drag into this one. I'm not necessarily posting to you in this post - just want other's to know what it means.

I said, "MANY" not all and I also said, "IN MY social circle. Act like a child all you want to.

Block me, I'm happy you are so you are not stalking me around this forum.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:20 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I don't like it when all I get from a woman is 'sexy' .... that to me is not sexy....
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:28 PM
 
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Women have varying looks and all women have a certain positive quality about them that stands out more than others (even if they don't like that). For some women, this quality is sex appeal. They just ooze it with no effort and they couldn't help it if they tried. While I admire these women, I also feel sorry for them, because I do believe that it clouds most men's judgement of them, and most can't get past it.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:30 PM
 
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They want the Madonna/*****, but not in the same person interestingly.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:32 PM
 
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Interestingly enough, while it's more rare, I saw a man on TV the other day who was very sexy who said he has no problems getting short-term dates, but he can't for the life of him get a long-term relationship, because women only see him as a sex object. I found it difficult to see past that as well when I looked at him.
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:32 PM
 
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who needs the grief?
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Old 01-19-2014, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Hell, NY
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What exactly is so wrong about sex appeal? How come guys go on about it being a bad idea to be with a sexy woman (outside of for sex), and why is it definitely a no-no to be with a VERY sexy woman? I don't at all mean any kind of twerksome hoe - I mean that lady who walks into the room with a killa body and a regal air and owns the room in seconds with her sex appeal and aura alone. That kind of sexy woman, the one who looks sexy fully clothed. Can the fellas out there please explain the reasoning behind this discrimination against uber-sexiness? Part 2 of the question I guess, is that if you find a woman mesmerisingly sexy, can you ever move past this and just appreciate her as a person? Will it always cloud (even sully) your interactions with her?

There's nothing wrong with "sexiness". I am drawn to sexiness just as I am sure many other posters are. Being sexy isn't a bad thing at all. It's when you see some men/ women trying too hard to be sexy that it can be perceived as lame/ bad/ negative. Like the muscle roided out guys who live in the gym. Or the women who work out too much. Have the whole six pack. Which, in my opinion and I am a guy, it is not sexy. A flat stomach is sexy. A six pack on a woman is not. That's just my opinion. I like my women to look soft/ girly. Not overly toned. I guess I just prefer natural sexiness. Someone who doesn't have to work on it like it's a job. I'm sure many others can say the same thing.

However, we ALL have to work to keep/ maintain it sooner or later. Father time passes no one by. Off topic: It's hard posting in between the football game. Thankfully with football, there are a lot of breaks!
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