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That was me in my 20s and even early 30s. Negative negative negative. I deluded myself and told my friends I could compartmentalize that negativity when I met women, and perhaps I could for a little bit, but a bright woman would see right through it and they did.
Now I'm in a much happier place, like my job, like my apartment, travel, have great hobbies... not enough $$, but other than that, dating is a snap. It's all attitude and putting yourself in a good place.
Excellent point. You sound like someone who gets it. People who are happy with their lives and in a good place emotionally are more attractive to other happy, stable people. Most people would rather date a 5 who is in love with life than an 8 who is bitter, angry, jaded, and whiny. Being a wounded puppy sometimes attracts a certain type of person who derives satisfaction from helping or fixing people, but that's never a very healthy relationship dynamic in the long run.
Excellent point. You sound like someone who gets it.
People who are happy with their lives and in a good place emotionally are more attractive to other happy, stable people.
Most people would rather date a 5 who is in love with life than an 8 who is bitter, angry, jaded, and whiny.
Being a wounded puppy sometimes attracts a certain type of person who derives satisfaction from helping or fixing people, but that's never a very healthy relationship dynamic in the long run.
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I think I'll take you up on that.
But, you should maybe expect to get terse responses when you throw your $.02 and pass judgment on people who didn't ask for it.
Just sayin'.
Just a note. A thought really (unsolicited). When you make a post on a open to the public discussion forum, you are in effect asking for people to react to/give feedback on/judge your statement.
It's the nature of the beast. It makes no logical sense to complain about that dynamic since that is what these forums are essentially all about.
Just a note. A thought really (unsolicited). When you make a post on a open to the public discussion forum, you are in effect asking for people to react to/give feedback on/judge your statement.
It's the nature of the beast. It makes no logical sense to complain about that dynamic since that is what these forums are essentially all about.
My original comment did not really invite feedback, but the commenter chose to pass judgment anyway. I'm guessing it wasn't the first time.
What was the point of calling me a quitter? My best guess would be that he wanted to assuage his own insecurities.
But, you should maybe expect to get terse responses when you throw your $.02 and pass judgment on people who didn't ask for it.
Just sayin'.
Throwing in $.02 is pretty much what forums like this are for, and I didn't read any judgment in the posts to which you were responding. You don't have to look far if you want to find truly judgmental posts on this forum.
My original comment did not really invite feedback
If you're not inviting feedback, why post on a public forum? Feedback is what people do here.
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