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Old 01-21-2014, 07:23 PM
 
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Hard to say I've ever encountered a 10 except in magazines. Most attractive women I see day-to-day are
7-9. I think I'll just set it at 8+ or go it alone. I don't see why I would bother otherwise. Overvaluing myself
doesn't have much to do with it when unattractive men are walking around with these women. Women
do not value looks.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:24 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I went on 2 dates last year, slept with both women on 1st date (not that I tried to make it happen that way, it just did thanks to some alcohol)




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Old 01-21-2014, 07:25 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Part of your success is also knowing what it is you're looking for. Sometimes that takes some exploration and introspection.

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I went on 2 dates last year, slept with both women on 1st date (not that I tried to make it happen that way, it just did thanks to some alcohol)


I tried to give it a chance but I just didn't find either one all that attractive so I ended it
Um, then why did you sleep with them?
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:25 PM
 
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Women do not value looks.
THANK YOU, thank you, thank you! The guys here don't believe us women when we say this.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:27 PM
 
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Hard to say I've ever encountered a 10 except in magazines. Most attractive women I see day-to-day are
7-9. I think I'll just set it at 8+ or go it alone. I don't see why I would bother otherwise. Overvaluing myself
doesn't have much to do with it when unattractive men are walking around with these women. Women
do not value looks.
No you are right women are more complicated than that, women like men start to value looks less and less as they get older too. If you have gone on 50 dates like you said though and have not gotten any 8's doesn't that tell you, at this point you can't get 8's for whatever reason? The way I see it is you have 3 options 1) Change yourself, better yourself to make 8's go for your 2)Stop trying to go for 8's and maybe go for someone average in looks but could make it up for it in other areas 3)Take the possibility of you being alone...oh well I mean were still semi young lol.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:27 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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I think having no "serious" friends (do you have any non-serious friends who could become serious?) is more of a problem than finding a date. At least if you have people to hang out with there's a possibility of meeting someone through a friend or friend of a friend. We don't know exactly what happens on these dates, but it sounds like there's a lack of compatibility if you can't carry on a conversation. I'm not exactly Mr. talkative and I've usually been able to carry on some kind of conversation with dates in the past.

I'd focus on meeting friends before going on another 50 dates.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:29 PM
 
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I think I'll just set it at 8+ or go it alone. I don't see why I would bother otherwise.
Why you maybe should bother is this:

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I'm dating someone who might not be the hottest I've dated but shes 29, educated, teacher, kind, good with kids, etc..
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:32 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Hard to say I've ever encountered a 10 except in magazines. Most attractive women I see day-to-day are
7-9. I think I'll just set it at 8+ or go it alone. I don't see why I would bother otherwise. Overvaluing myself
doesn't have much to do with it when unattractive men are walking around with these women. Women
do not value looks.
These "10" women are aided by things like makeup and, well, digital retouching. They don't actually look like that.

A lot of women value looks, but what one finds attractive varies greatly. I have a wide spectrum of what I'm attracted to. What some may consider "average" or "okay" I may deem very attractive or handsome. One of the most intense and passionate relationships I was in was with a man who most would consider average. He considered me to be way out of his league, but I thought he was handsome and sexy. His brain was f*cking hot. The entire package, to include the chemistry, counts a lot.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:33 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Why you maybe should bother is this:
She's not hot enough, therefore she's not good enough for this guy who's amazing in all ways except for a few.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:35 PM
 
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You said you went to grad school. Does the field you are working in have any kind of meetings among your peers, or does your school have gettogethers for alumni? I'd guess there are women in your field who did the same thing you did -- focused on school. Have you tried attending any of these kinds of events?
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