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Say if you meet a significant other that was a 10/10 in attractiveness except their faithfulness is 1/10
So they are super good looking, fit, confident, nice, funny, intelligent, has an interesting job, financially secure, great conversationalist, great at cooking, lots of friends, etc. They had every single quality you wanted in SO... except they are most likely going to cheat in the relationship...
If you picked 5/10 attractiveness and 5/10 faithfulness
Then they are basically average.... and 50% chance of cheating.
or
1/10 attractiveness and 10/10 faithfulness
So they are unattractive at all, overweight, negative outlook on life, always a downer, etc... but most loyal person ever and won't ever cheat.
or if you had some other combination you wanted...
I hate rating people on a 1 to 10 scale, but will stick with this in reference to the OP's ranking of three potential people.
The 10/10 would not be committed or faithful and the relationship would fail. So being awesome in every other way would be irrelevant.
The 1/10 would fail because they would be a depressed downer, Eyore, and as such would have no ability to be happy or emotionally available for me.
Notice in neither of these does their physical state have any bearing. They are emotionally a disaster from the start.
The 5/10 would be the only place there would be potential, and even here this does not sound encouraging. Combine the chance to cheat, along with the likelihood this person will be emotionally distant... and again I am seeing a struggle in this relationship as well.
BUT, this is an odd exercise anyway. Faithfulness and attractiveness are not related or inversely related in and of themselves. They do not corrolate. Then, on top of that, positive personality traits are not mutually exclusive to cheating, nor ar enegative to faithfullness.
If all women represented one of these three examples, I would be single. Luckily, these examples are not at all part of some kind of social or psychological rule or given out in the real world.
I thought attractiveness meant physical attractiveness, which means I'd pick the 1/10 in looks every time. But looking at those options, I agree with the others that I would remain single. I mean, it's like asking someone if they prefer to have a terrible relationship in one way over the other.
No man is attractive to me if he isn't faithful. Before I get to know him I may rate him high on the attractiveness scale. But once I know he is the unfaithful type he becomes a BIG ZERO to me.
Why would I choose from a bunch of made-up scenarios? Those don't represent life.
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Say if you meet a significant other that was a 10/10 in attractiveness except their faithfulness is 1/10
So they are super good looking, fit, confident, nice, funny, intelligent, has an interesting job, financially secure, great conversationalist, great at cooking, lots of friends, etc. They had every single quality you wanted in SO... except they are most likely going to cheat in the relationship...
I call this cruising for a bruising. Who needs a 10 in attractiveness (assuming you mean looks, but you might not)?
I can be happy with a 6 or even a 5 if she's fun or interesting to be with/talk to, shares some hobbies/interests with me, is very game in bed, and is overall well-adjusted (no loonies need apply). I don't need her to do much of the cooking, I can cover that. Not a huge deal, as long as she'll do the cleaning up afterwards. Fair's fair.
I really don't see this as the rocket science some dudes think it is. But YMMV.
Funny, even in a hypothetical setting I'm unwilling to compromise. I could never be with someone I'm not attracted to and I would never be with someone who I even believed could/would cheat on me. As a matter of fact, I'm thinking I should stop off on the way home from work tonight and buy my wife something special for allowing me to enjoy both ends of the spectrum.
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