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Even though Shayla and I haven't spoke for a week. She's said constantly about how much she likes/loves me. We're long distance, I'm here in AZ and she moved to Idaho last Spring.
The reason why they moved is because her roommate/best friend convinced her to go to Idaho for a "fresh start". It seemed to go well, they lived near friends, they took a trip to Hawaii. However, Shayla claims that she's never coming back down here. But there is an issue with that.
Her roommate, also a friend of mine got engaged to a guy I know out here. While she was visiting down here 3 weeks ago. Which kinda throws that whole "fresh start" thing out the window. And I think it's kicked up a huge bout of drama at home for her. And I don't know how to help.
Part of me says I should just sit back and let it play out, but I just want to know what Shayla's going to do. But I think she hasn't been talkative because of it.
I'm assuming this is girlfriend and not daughter? I don't understand the dynamics. If she is GF, I would think you would be happy she is returning, if you are indifferent to her, than play it out??
If the two of you are in love, why wouldn't she come back to AZ to be with you? Seems like the perfect opportunity. Is she in school? Semester will be over in 3 months, so she can make the move then.
My ex H and I were long distance off and on for 5 years, USA <--> UK. We took every opportunity to be together. He took a year off college to spend with me. I relocated there the next year. That is what people in relationships do.
I'm assuming this is girlfriend and not daughter? I don't understand the dynamics. If she is GF, I would think you would be happy she is returning, if you are indifferent to her, than play it out??
Oh God no! She's a girlfriend!
If she does return, I'd be more than happy. But she keeps saying she doesn't want to. Even though financially that might not be her choice anymore since her family is still down here aside from some grandparents in Montana.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
If the two of you are in love, why wouldn't she come back to AZ to be with you? Seems like the perfect opportunity. Is she in school? Semester will be over in 3 months, so she can make the move then.
My ex H and I were long distance off and on for 5 years, USA <--> UK. We took every opportunity to be together. He took a year off college to spend with me. I relocated there the next year. That is what people in relationships do.
If she does return, I'd be more than happy. But she keeps saying she doesn't want to. Even though financially that might not be her choice anymore since her family is still down here aside from some grandparents in Montana.
No. She isn't in college.
Did I miss something?
If she wanted to be there, with you- it'd happen.
If it's really love....it will. Only time will tell.
Did I miss something?
If she wanted to be there, with you- it'd happen.
If it's really love....it will. Only time will tell.
She's a lot like myself in a way. She wants to get out of this town.
But like you said. Time will tell. And by the looks of things for myself, my family won't even have this house in 3 months, and I'll be out of college and probably making that big move I've been planning on.
She's a lot like myself in a way. She wants to get out of this town.
But like you said. Time will tell. And by the looks of things for myself, my family won't even have this house in 3 months, and I'll be out of college and probably making that big move I've been planning on.
What's stopping you from making a plan together, if you know you will be free to move in 3 months. Three months is NOTHING and will fly by before you know it.
WHY aren't you talking to her and working on your future as a couple? What are you scared of? You will never have this kind of freedom again.
She's a lot like myself in a way. She wants to get out of this town.
But like you said. Time will tell. And by the looks of things for myself, my family won't even have this house in 3 months, and I'll be out of college and probably making that big move I've been planning on.
Well as long as she's not giving you mixed signals....
nothing is worse than being in a LDR with someone who's playing mindgames with you constantly
Call her bluff- tell her you're moving to her area...see what happens.
What's stopping you from making a plan together, if you know you will be free to move in 3 months. Three months is NOTHING and will fly by before you know it.
WHY aren't you talking to her and working on your future as a couple? What are you scared of? You will never have this kind of freedom again.
It's more like she hasn't been talking to me. For stated reasons above, I think her roommate bringing on the whole "getting married" thing on her and left Shayla flapping in the wind on what to do with rent and such is part of the problem and may be causing drama.
It's more like she hasn't been talking to me. For stated reasons above, I think her roommate bringing on the whole "getting married" thing on her and left Shayla flapping in the wind on what to do with rent and such is part of the problem and may be causing drama.
I am surprised she is not comfortable talking to you about what she's going through and what her plans are.
In any case, a roommate getting engaged and making plans to move out (not immediately, surely) really doesn't seem like "drama" to me. It is a very common scenario during young adulthood. You just get another roommate, yes?
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