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Well, the whole "giving access to their bodies" thing is not exactly how I look at it, like my vagina is some vault or treasure box to be granted to a man like a gift after he sits there panting for it. Sex is something I want, too. And being willing to "share my body" does not mean I am willing to be pregnant. Regardless, I already addressed why someone would want to go behind a partner's back on the first page of this thread. These things just don't happen out of the blue. The relationships were probably already in trouble.
Also if you read the post I was referring to, he said no abortion should ever take place without both parties at the very least informed.
Or what if a woman is raped? The rapist is supposed to have some kind of input into the process? He should have some say over what she does with a pregnancy that was forced upon her against her will?
Honestly, the disregard for women, their bodies, and their health and well-being that is required to make such a statement defies categorization.
Well, first off, we will have to make it a law that rapists leave their contact information with their victim so she can consult him if she decides to abort.
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I can think of any word to imagine how this guy in the story must now be feeling. The woman had an abortion behind his back. She acted as if nothing happened and informs him about it 3 days later what she did.
This must really suck. If the man does wants the baby (I think it's because very little is mentioned about male attachment towards the baby), the woman is fully aware of this but still aborts the baby behind his back and comes home telling him the baby is dead because she had an abortion.
If the guy knows about the abotion of that leady, then we can forget tht leady. If he dosen't know about this so he can't forget those leady. Because if they are in commited relation so that leady dosen't have right to do this kind of steps.
Would have to leave the girl because the going behind my back aspect is too much for me. Why would anyone want to be with a woman that is capable of doing that to her SO.
Yes. He reacted well. He understood that the decision was the right one and was one I would have made in any circumstance.
Its good he reacted well. I just don't think I would even tell after the fact unless it were a good committed relationship and then I would hope I could tell him beforehand.
I have always made a point to tell any new lover before we ever had sex that in the near impossible event I did become pregnant I would get an abortion. So I figured that covered my arse as far as disclosure is concerned.
Would have to leave the girl because the going behind my back aspect is too much for me. Why would anyone want to be with a woman that is capable of doing that to her SO.
Why would any woman want to be with a man who thinks he should hold sway over what happens in her body?
Because that's what it boils down to. If a woman knows she definitely does not want to have a child, what would be the point of telling her partner? So he can try to coerce her?
Not going to happen. You can't force women to share that information. If you are that concerned about having to pay for a child you don't want, get a vasectomy. End of story.
If a woman doesn't want a kid, why doesn't she get her tubes tied?
Why would any woman want to be with a man who thinks he should hold sway over what happens in her body?
Because that's what it boils down to. If a woman knows she definitely does not want to have a child, what would be the point of telling her partner? So he can try to coerce her?
She could at least tell me she is doing it before she actually goes and does it. You are turning this into an argument that no one is arguing. Who the hell here is saying it isn't her body and her choice ultimately?
I have always made a point to tell any new lover before we ever had sex that in the near impossible event I did become pregnant I would get an abortion. So I figured that covered my arse as far as disclosure is concerned.
I did tell him that, as I tell every man I date.
"If I were to get pregnant, by some sort of miracle of science, I would abort"
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She could at least tell me she is doing it before she actually goes and does it.
What would be the benefit in her doing so? I'm just curious.
If this is a deeply committed LTR, I think it may be a bad sign if she didn't communicate this with her partner, but otherwise?
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