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I'm looking to prove to myself two things:
> being a woman who does the approaching is either socially acceptable or not, HOW do men respond?
according to the men on CD - it never happens, and they feel like the whole responsibility is on them to be the 'aggressor'.
When I do this, will I be veiwed as aggressive, as unappealing because I took the 'power' of the initiation away?
If I were to get a date, would I be expected to pay for it, and open the doors, help him take off his coat?
I had an aunt who was gorgeous. She dressed beautifully, very elegant. She was widowed. The only way she could get dates was by asking the guys out, and she did so without any qualms at all. She liked to attend social events and concerts, and she wasn't the type to go alone, so she'd ask guys from her country club, or wherever. No one ever turned her down. To the contrary, they were happy to escort her. And she loved having the company. She wasn't looking for an LTR, just an enjoyable evening.
I guess it works if you're gorgeous and dress like a minor celebrity.
I had an aunt who was gorgeous. She dressed beautifully, very elegant. She was widowed. The only way she could get dates was by asking the guys out, and she did so without any qualms at all. She liked to attend social events and concerts, and she wasn't the type to go alone, so she'd ask guys from her country club, or wherever. No one ever turned her down. To the contrary, they were happy to escort her. And she loved having the company. She wasn't looking for an LTR, just an enjoyable evening.
I guess it works if you're gorgeous and dress like a minor celebrity.
It also works if you go to those events alone, it's makes you VERY approachable. My daughter recently attended a fancy company Christmas party alone after a fight with her bf. There were over 200 people there, mostly couples, but there were a few solos and she was asked out by two guys who couldn't believe she came stag. She didn't even know most of the people since she was an outside contractor for the firm, which made her twice as interesting.
It also works if you go to those events alone, it's makes you VERY approachable. My daughter recently attended a fancy company Christmas party alone after a fight with her bf. There were over 200 people there, mostly couples, but there were a few solos and she was asked out by two guys who couldn't believe she came stag. She didn't even know most of the people since she was an outside contractor for the firm, which made her twice as interesting.
This is the mystery of it all. My aunt regularly attended community events and club events, but no one ever asked her out. She had to do it herself. I don't think it's just on C-D that men are afraid to approach women, or assume they're already taken. (Even if they attend events alone.) This seems to be an issue in our culture in general.
I'm looking to prove to myself two things:
> being a woman who does the approaching is either socially acceptable or not, HOW do men respond?
according to the men on CD - it never happens, and they feel like the whole responsibility is on them to be the 'aggressor'.
When I do this, will I be veiwed as aggressive, as unappealing because I took the 'power' of the initiation away?
If I were to get a date, would I be expected to pay for it, and open the doors, help him take off his coat?
Two of my longest relationships came from them approaching me. Lets say I bit in, and I bit in hard. I LOVED that the pressure was off of me and I knew they had interest in me. I had interest in them as well, but it was very refreshing for them to take the lead. At that point, I could take over more, because I know I'm not "wasting" my efforts.
Lol, yep some guys will think you are nuts. Do it in a manner of just small talk,"Look at these strawberries and the prices!They all nasty looking....I need another fruit....what fruit do you like? Pineapple? Grapes? Canilope?"
"Did you eat dinner yet? Want to go out for dinner? "
Ok my treat I like Italian, do you? Don't make it too much I don't like to waste money. You may not work out and I have to date 3 other men so that's like 230.00 bucks! Holy crap! I need to rethink this! Oh oh I know date one guy at a time!!!!!!!
Ok my treat I like Italian, do you? Don't make it too much I don't like to waste money. You may not work out and I have to date 3 other men so that's like 230.00 bucks! Holy crap! I need to rethink this! Oh oh I know date one guy at a time!!!!!!!
Hahahahaha. Raena, I must say you have an excellent perspective on what it's like to be a guy.
JBT1980, if you like that sort of thing. I meant ask ladies out.
It was a joke referring the op's social experiment as far as asking ladies out yeah umm thats not gonna happen. Ive been rejected enough..and i never get any signs of interest as soon as i start a convo theyre already looking for a way out and thats just awkward and uncomfrotable for me to try to talk to someone i know is looking to get out of the conversation and is clearly not attracted..
I tried old even did tinder to see if i was physically attractive to some women so i "liked" every women on there just as an experiment to see if i can get likes back and got no likes back while my good looking friend in the same time span got 67 lol its quite obvious im not attractive to women why kepe banging my head agianst the wall?
It was a joke referring the op's social experiment as far as asking ladies out yeah umm thats not gonna happen. Ive been rejected enough..and i never get any signs of interest as soon as i start a convo theyre already looking for a way out and thats just awkward and uncomfrotable for me to try to talk to someone i know is looking to get out of the conversation and is clearly not attracted..
I tried old even did tinder to see if i was physically attractive to some women so i "liked" every women on there just as an experiment to see if i can get likes back and got no likes back while my good looking friend in the same time span got 67 lol its quite obvious im not attractive to women why kepe banging my head agianst the wall?
Lol, I know I was joking too.
Aww they probably are witches anyway. They will get it. Lol
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