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It sounds like you and your boyfriend should not move in together.
He appears to place more importance on money and the renters than you and your cat.
No animals should be "boarded up in the attic", they aren't stuffed animals you can store away.
It also appears you and your happiness are not as important as his renters and their money
If this were me I would stay where I am and dump the boyfriend since he seems more interested in his money than your happiness as a couple.
Thank you for all your replies. Certainly gives me a lot to think about. I'm tempted to even show him this thread. -_-
Show him this thread.
YOU should be the priority over some couple who may or may not be living there for two years. And why the hell would he charge you more for rent then he charges them? That makes no sense to me.
It sounds like you are a really caring person helping your mom out and being so concerned about your cat in this situation.
I'm not going to say your BF is a jerk but it sounds like his main concern is himself. If I were in your position I wouldn't move in with him.
Why does he have to HONOR that commitment?? Things change. People fall in love. He is not OBLIGATED to follow through on a couple who can just as well rent a place for a little over $750 somewhere else.
He should live apart from his beloved gf just so these people can stay? Hmmm. I see that totally different.
He shouldn't have to give help to an unstable homeless mom either.
Well, we had a conversation about it last night. The main issue I brought up is that, going forward, I needed to know that I can trust him and that he will honor his word with me. I brought up that I felt he was putting monetary issues over my happiness, and maybe it wasn't the best time to move in... He said that "after awhile" if I start missing the cat, she can move in and we'll figure it out -- maybe get new roommates.... It's still kind of a half-fix because the core issue still exists, but maybe it's progress.
I'd like to believe that he has my best interest at heart and he's just trying to find an amicable solution for everyone given all of the different issues at play here... but feelings are still at a boiling point and honestly I feel like it could jeopardize things in the future because I would grow to resent the situation. Did I mention I've had the cat since I was 11? Am 26 now. -_-
Someone who is still relying on roommates to pay for his house, and who intends to "get other ones" after the current ones leave isn't ready to cohabit with a significant other.
Well, we had a conversation about it last night. The main issue I brought up is that, going forward, I needed to know that I can trust him and that he will honor his word with me. I brought up that I felt he was putting monetary issues over my happiness, and maybe it wasn't the best time to move in... He said that "after awhile" if I start missing the cat, she can move in and we'll figure it out -- maybe get new roommates.... It's still kind of a half-fix because the core issue still exists, but maybe it's progress.
I'd like to believe that he has my best interest at heart and he's just trying to find an amicable solution for everyone given all of the different issues at play here... but feelings are still at a boiling point and honestly I feel like it could jeopardize things in the future because I would grow to resent the situation. Did I mention I've had the cat since I was 11? Am 26 now. -_-
Thanks for the update.
Not really progress. He makes half a$$ed promises to lure you in. And when you moved in he will say, leave the cat where it is, because it is all working well s
Well, we had a conversation about it last night. The main issue I brought up is that, going forward, I needed to know that I can trust him and that he will honor his word with me. I brought up that I felt he was putting monetary issues over my happiness, and maybe it wasn't the best time to move in... He said that "after awhile" if I start missing the cat, she can move in and we'll figure it out -- maybe get new roommates.... It's still kind of a half-fix because the core issue still exists, but maybe it's progress.
I'd like to believe that he has my best interest at heart and he's just trying to find an amicable solution for everyone given all of the different issues at play here... but feelings are still at a boiling point and honestly I feel like it could jeopardize things in the future because I would grow to resent the situation. Did I mention I've had the cat since I was 11? Am 26 now. -_-
Only an idiot would put their girlfriend before their own monetary issues.
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