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I'm just looking for opinions and advice on how to approach the situation. I'd appreciate it.
Probe her availability.
If she's spontaneous, then you have nothing to worry about.
If she has to plan everything down to the very last detail, then you have every right to be suspicious.
This is what my gut tells me. But I don't want to be irrational too.
Why is your gut telling you this? Is a few instagram likes really the only thing that's bothering you, or are you getting other signals too? Because it does seem a little irrational to get all upset over a few instagram likes in this day and age. But a lot of times your gut sees things that your brain blocks out.
You know, you could just pull out your phone, look at your feed, and then casually ask her about her instagram comments next time you see her. A simple "who is this guy?" will do the trick. If you take an accusatory tone with her, it's likely to end poorly regardless of what she's up to. I don't think it's that uncommon to be a little sensitive at the five month mark of a relationship. This is also a good time to find out how she feels about the two of you having friends of the opposite sex. Not every couple is like my husband and me. That's fine as long as you're both on the same page about it.
Thanks for the advice. I think I might take that approach. He wouldn't really come up on my feed, but her commenting did come up previously. Dunno if I'll be around her next time something like that pops up, but I'll see. We actually had that conversation and both felt unless they were long term platonic friends, most likely one side of an opposite sex friendship feelings tend build for either the guy or girl. Thanks again.
Why is your gut telling you this? Is a few instagram likes really the only thing that's bothering you, or are you getting other signals too? Because it does seem a little irrational to get all upset over a few instagram likes in this day and age. But a lot of times your gut sees things that your brain blocks out.
I wouldn't say she has given me other signals necessarily, although I do know she cheated on one boyfriend in her past. A question of her character and integrity for that fact, yes. She is a very attractive girl and gets lots of attention, so I'm sure my own insecurity could perpetuate the situation for sure. starla, I really appreciate your responses.
If she's an intelligent human and she knows you can see her instagram comments, she probably thinks this is no big deal.
People make random public comments on social media ALL the time about wanting to hang out/catch up with other people. I think most of it is sentiment, not actual intent to make plans.
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If she's an intelligent human and she knows you can see her instagram comments, she probably thinks this is no big deal.
People make random public comments on social media ALL the time about wanting to hang out/catch up with other people. I think most of it is sentiment, not actual intent to make plans.
I'm not sure if she's aware that I can or have seen them since Instagram is a bit different than others like Facebook in terms of fees, but I do understand your point. I also agree about the public comments on social media, however, I do think the request to text about hanging out opens the door to private convo's with someone serious intent. Thanks for the reply.
My late husband would have NEVER pulled that kind of crap. Making plans to spend time with another woman? What is wrong with you that you think that behavior is OK?
My husband does that and has since we have been together.
There are things that he enjoys doing that I don't so him and his friends male and female go and do and I think it is great. Sometimes he even goes with the females by himself and it still does not bother me.
He has been friends with most of his female friends for more than 20 years which is 10 years longer than I have been in his life.
I have met most of them but not all of them and they have all been either married or single at some point during their friendship.
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