Having a baby without being married (girlfriend, marriage, love, family)
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My girlfriend is 6 months pregnant with our baby boy and I could never imagine people could be so judgemental about this. Especially our relatives and our parents' friends.
Everyone thinks it was an oops baby and they get shocked when we say it was a planned pregnancy. I even told my fanantically religious aunt that we loved living in sin. She says the baby can't go out at night without us being married and being christened.
Some people are okay with us having a baby but they are conviced we are planning to marry right after the baby is born.
We have no intention of ever marrying. We are both rational adults who know we should try the best to stay together. In case it doesn't work out, we save a lot of hassle from legal issues.
Of course at the end of the day it's no one's business. But I'm still curious when these days everyone is supposedly so liberal but when things happen people still show their true colours.
Talking down about people for their beliefs really isn't cool- whatever they may be. Them rapping you or the way you rap on them.
I would say learn to at least to respect peeople and their opinions even if you disagree with them. For I have found that what's "right" for me may not be "right" at all, it's simply what I choose to do.
Are you going to be on the birth certificate? In terms of the hassle of legal issues, you know even if the relationship doesn't work out, you are still legally bound to pay child support right?
We have no intention of ever marrying. We are both rational adults who know we should try the best to stay together. In case it doesn't work out, we save a lot of hassle from legal issues.
I don't know that that's the case, though. You're for all intents and purposes common-law married, unless you don't live together and your finances aren't commingled at all. If for whatever reason you split up, not being married isn't going to make a dissolution easier, especially when there's a child involved.
Talking down about people for their beliefs really isn't cool- whatever they may be. Them rapping you or the way you rap on them.
I would say learn to at least to respect peeople and their opinions even if you disagree with them. For I have found that what's "right" for me may not be "right" at all, it's simply what I choose to do.
I was just tired of listening to religious comments.
Are you going to be on the birth certificate? In terms of the hassle of legal issues, you know even if the relationship doesn't work out, you are still legally bound to pay child support right?
Obviously. And why wouldn't I want to pay CS in case we separated?
I really am not supportive of people having kids out of marriage BUT if you plan to never marry then that is a different situation. I have 0 problems with your situation and I wonder if you have made it clear to your family that you plan to never marry. Considering I view things based on a society level since I study a lot of public policy I HATE unplanned pregnancies out of marriage. Almost always ends bad and the mother and child are nothing but a burden on the state.
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Originally Posted by Tchokan
Obviously. And why wouldn't I want to pay CS in case we separated?
Do you have a question or do you just want to complain about religious people?
Ignore your aunt's comments. I don't see why you just want to egg her on, then complain about how people disapprove. Take the high road. You and your gf are doing what's right for yourselves and that's all that should matter.
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