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For all you know, the husband has been cheating on the wife for ages and is no better a person. Don't be so quick to project you personal experience and feelings onto someone you don't know, whose situation you don't know.
This is hilarious. Isn't the OP doing the same?
You are correct, he may be cheating; but WE don't know....neither does she. She has no idea of what may happen as a result of her meddling.
As for personal experiences...ummm... nope.
As I keep saying, it's her motives that bother me.
Why bother expending the energy to dream up methods of revenge, when it can be put to much better use? Go to the gym. Take a class. And for God's sake, if you don't trust the person you're in a relationship with, get out.
"Before He Cheats" is a fun karaoke song, but it's fk'n psycho behavior, which is endearing to no one.
Why bother expending the energy to dream up methods of revenge, when it can be put to much better use? Go to the gym. Take a class. And for God's sake, if you don't trust the person you're in a relationship with, get out.
"Before He Cheats" is a fun karaoke song, but it's fk'n psycho behavior, which is endearing to no one.
Sometimes I think that people thrive on drama.
If it was mundane and boring it would be a very short thread
I did not tell him, I didn't follow through. Felt bad either way, telling and hurting him or not telling because I really would want to be told if I were in his shoes. I believe he has a right to know and I don't believe in Karma or any nonsense like that. But I didn't tell him to update anyone following this.
I did not tell him, I didn't follow through. Felt bad either way, telling and hurting him or not telling because I really would want to be told if I were in his shoes. I believe he has a right to know and I don't believe in Karma or any nonsense like that. But I didn't tell him to update anyone following this.
proud of you for listening to the little part of you that knew this wasn't the right thing to do
I did not tell him, I didn't follow through. Felt bad either way, telling and hurting him or not telling because I really would want to be told if I were in his shoes. I believe he has a right to know and I don't believe in Karma or any nonsense like that. But I didn't tell him to update anyone following this.
You are a good woman for sparing him, God Bless you. He probably will find out sooner or later, I'm glad you didn't lower yourself by being the one to tell him and possibly send him off the deep end.
You are a good woman for sparing him, God Bless you. He probably will find out sooner or later, I'm glad you didn't lower yourself by being the one to tell him and possibly send him off the deep end.
I agree, in matters of the heart it is very hard to do the right things sometimes. But I think that lws just did. You are growing as you post. Kudos. I know it was a difficult decision. The "right" thing is seldom easy. That's why it's the "right" thing. Again, kudos to you for thinking this through instead of just reacting on straight impulse.
You are a good woman for sparing him, God Bless you. He probably will find out sooner or later, I'm glad you didn't lower yourself by being the one to tell him and possibly send him off the deep end.
That's the thing, isn't it: none of this is rational, by which I mean that "affairs d'amore" don't follow the usual social rules of ettiquette. Bad things can and do happen.
LOL, to OP: one of the most commons ways everyone involved catches a bullet from the aggrieved husband. Really. Look it up in crime stats. See also "Crime of Passion."
Low down, cheating men are some of the most dishonorable scum of the earth. At some lizard-brain level I at-least marginally "understand" (though in no way condone) why the cuckolded sometimes come unglued.
Man-to-man, I don't mess with another man's stuff. First and foremost, his woman and family. Next, his land. Third, his property (car, dog, other items he's worked for). That is all very primal. Do so at peril.
My point being, of course, as an aggrieved woman OP should probably exit that situation before it implodes. Made more complicated that implosion may happen tomorrow, a month from tomorrow, or never. Sucks, I'm sure. Move out, leave for another part of town if-feasible.
I'd probably let it all take its course and not get involved, calling it "lesson learned." But if you do, as the saying goes "dig two graves" first. If you wish to mount a campaign of what I would call counterintelligence (obfuscation, disinformation) you'll need to be uber-thorough to dissuade and disrupt anything that could, should, or would naturally lead back your way. That's actually quite hard to do.
I did not tell him, I didn't follow through. Felt bad either way, telling and hurting him or not telling because I really would want to be told if I were in his shoes. I believe he has a right to know and I don't believe in Karma or any nonsense like that. But I didn't tell him to update anyone following this.
That's pretty awesome. I really truly hope that you find peace. Thanks for the update.
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