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....could you forgive them? Under what circumstances could it be forgivable, for you?
Cheating will continue to be a source of misery until people face the fact that strict monogamy is just not workable for everyone.
Sure, some people can be perfectly content with strict monogamy. But many can't. For many people, strict monogamy is depressing, dull and frustrating. We need to stop treating the perfectly normal desire for sexual variety as if it were a sickness. We need to stop regarding a single instance of infidelity as an extinction-level event. If people in long-term relationships allowed each other some occasional, limited outside sexual contact, they'd be better off.
Cheating will continue to be a source of misery until people face the fact that strict monogamy is just not workable for everyone.
Sure, some people can be perfectly content with strict monogamy. But many can't. For many people, strict monogamy is depressing, dull and frustrating. We need to stop treating the perfectly normal desire for sexual variety as if it were a sickness. We need to stop regarding a single instance of infidelity as an extinction-level event. If people in long-term relationships allowed each other some occasional, limited outside sexual contact, they'd be better off.
It's forums like this, that's proof, people aren't meant to be monogamous. .
....could you forgive them? Under what circumstances could it be forgivable, for you?
Probably not. I am in a strange relationship that only works because of on going and open communication and honesty. If that foundation were compromised - in my case at least as I speak for no one but my relationship - it would be nearly impossible to repeait.
For many people, strict monogamy is depressing, dull and frustrating. We need to stop treating the perfectly normal desire for sexual variety as if it were a sickness. We need to stop regarding a single instance of infidelity as an extinction-level event. If people in long-term relationships allowed each other some occasional, limited outside sexual contact, they'd be better off.
Or maybe we need to recognize that not every impulse or "need" has to be acted upon, and that "frustrating" is something adults need to learn to cope with in life.
That, or "associate" strictly with others who also find monogamy depressing, dull, and frustrating. If it's so common, it shouldn't be that difficult.
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