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If you notice the attitudes on this forum, however, a fair amount of men have delusions that post age 30 they can get a woman in their 20s still, and that women 30+ are washed up, old hags. Hanging around this forum is probably not good for one's perceptions of dating reality.
Yeah, I'm getting that impression as well. 32 is not old at all for a woman. Well, maybe to an 21 y.o. guy, but then, he would still need a hella lot more life experiences to be able to catch up to the 32 y.o. woman.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
I tried sending her one last night but her box was full
I believe you and thanks for the additional info, but husbands also do that to their wives. That was my main point. Movies have also been made based on them and actual documentaries have been made about homicidal husbands. They are just as dangerous. Women continue to marry. Drivers kill people. People continue to drive.
Are you seriously making the claim that picking up randos in bars and getting married carry equal risks?
Anyway Jersey, if you want to pick up randos go right ahead, it is your life. What I don't get is, why do you insist on telling your friends and family? Don't tell them, then they won't view you as a skank. People have always kept their dirty dealings on the down low which is exactly the way things should be... I don't understand the purpose of over-sharing everything.
Are you seriously making the claim that picking up randos in bars and getting married carry equal risks?
I was making the case that there are no guarantees and both can carry risk. I also mentioned driving and DUI. The battered women's shelters are not closing. Most women are in there because of a husband or a boyfriend she lives with. A smaller number due to strangers.
I think any single guy that has been in a bar (reasonably sure that includes both of us and other guys posting here) appreciate being considered with the same regard as other people rather than a random creep (granted, I am there far less often these days). It is easy to make over-generalizations and I provided intelligent commentary suggesting we think it through more clearly before jumping to conclusions.
It is easier to leave a dangerous stranger as there are no marital/monetary/relational ties that have to be severed or worked out, than a dangerous husband.
Anyway Jersey, if you want to pick up randos go right ahead, it is your life. What I don't get is, why do you insist on telling your friends and family? Don't tell them, then they won't view you as a skank. People have always kept their dirty dealings on the down low which is exactly the way things should be... I don't understand the purpose of over-sharing everything.
I will agree with you on this part. If someone does not want to be regarded that way, better not to tell everyone about it.
I was making the case that there are no guarantees and both can carry risk. I also mentioned driving and DUI. The battered women's shelters are not closing. Most women are in there because of a husband or a boyfriend she lives with. A smaller number due to strangers.
I think any single guy that has been in a bar (reasonably sure that includes both of us and other guys posting here) appreciate being considered with the same regard as other people rather than a random creep (granted, I am there far less often these days). It is easy to make over-generalizations and I provided intelligent commentary suggesting we think it through more clearly before jumping to conclusions.
It is easier to leave a dangerous stranger as there are no marital/monetary/relational ties that have to be severed or worked out, than a dangerous husband.
This is a silly point because you aren't taking into account risk assessment. For instance, walking down the street carries the small risk that I might get mugged. Walking down the street at 3 am in a bad neighborhood while I am drunk carries a much higher risk that I might get mugged. Does that mean I should stop walking down the street? Or that it is ok to walk around drunk in a bad neighborhood because hey, everything comes with a risk? Sorry I do not think equating picking up strangers in bars carries the same risk as getting married counts as "intelligent commentary" at all.
Drunken pick up sex can backfire on men as well. I had a male friend who told me about an experience picking up a drunk gal at a bar and taking her back to his place. (he was drunk, too) In the process of getting down to it, she started to freak out. She ran screaming through his apartment "Leave me alone, leave me alone!"
My friend was obviously freaked out himself, and tried to get her to calm down. She finally did, got dressed and left.
My friend sat in utter terror for the rest of the night that the cops were going to bust his door down and haul him off for attempted rape. Nothing came of it, but it is certainly food for thought for men who think drunken pick ups are a good idea.
The door to Crazy Land swings both ways...
This is why former Dallas Cowboys offensive lineman, Nate Newton kept a recording security camera in his room and about his house. And it came in very very handy one day. He brought home a woman he picked up from a bar for a one night stand. They had complete, 100% consensual sex. Next day, she claimed rapped in an attempt to extort him. Got an attorney and all. Nate sent her attorney and the police a copy of the recoded encounter. She was charged and sentenced.
If he had not had the setup he did in home. 10-1 odds say his life would have been ruined.
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