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So,what is wrong with looking for random guys in a bar to sleep with?
Why do guys who do the same thing not looked down on as much as us women?
I pretty much accept this,because I do not see myself in a relationship.
If you even have to ask - I doubt that you would accept the answers - and there are several. Have you noticed that you only received answers from three guys (BTW I'm a woman and married) so far - and were any of them serious or helpful? Regardless of what anyone else thinks there is still a double standard between men and women and it is alive and well. You certainly can do as they do - if you're up to being treated like a piece of crap, talked about badly by both men and women, not afraid of picking up some psycho who might kill you or follow you home some dark night (hey, it happens), not afraid of catching herpes, the HIV, crabs, or any other STD floating around out there - some we may not even know about yet. That's how it was back in the 80's - nobody had heard about AIDS then - the worst that could happen was pregnancy - and nobody was dying from that. Not like that anymore - even with protection it's risky. If you don't have any problem with anonymous, empty, joyless, meaningless sex - with no romance, no familiarity, no caring or tenderness, not being important to anyone - apparently not even yourself - then go for it. I was young once - so I do know what I'm speaking about. You said you don't see yourself in a relationship - which is your prerogative. Maybe you don't NOW - but what about in say, five years? By then what will be left of you? You'll be so tired of hooking up, and not committing to a relationship - and time will continue to pass you by. You might miss a golden opportunity to meet a wonderful guy - and change your life in a wonderful way - if you continue to waste your time in bars and just "settling" for whatever scraps you can find. I hope you discover that you are worth more than that - and learn to seek relationships that lift you up - not climb on top of you and then tell everybody in the neighborhood about it tomorrow. Your choice and yours only - but I do think you know the answer already. Good luck, young lady.
There are some people like me who propably will never be in a relationship due to personality issues,attractiveness,etc.
It happens.
Someday some of us have to wake up and face reality. I already did.
I am an older woman btw.
If you want to go to bars and pick up random strangers for sex then go ahead and go.
It is your choice, your life and no one else's business how you live your life.
If you are concerned about your reputation percieved by others go to bars not in your neighborhood or in the city next to you. That way there is less chance you will see someone you know.
Good luck, have a great time, call a cab if needed so you don't drive home intoxicated and hurt yourself or someone else.
A) Drunk sex gets old
B) Sex with strangers is usually meh
C) Males over the age of 28 that constantly hang out in bars are judged too
Why males not judged as harshly? Because we already have the stereotype of being pigs/lacking feelings. Plus a male can protect himself from an out of control partner.
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Older women should get it while they still can, just like men, if that's what they want. Nobody's gonna judge a mature woman badly for that, she will just be seen and applauded as a successful cougar.
My male relatives do it,but they are not called anything.
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