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I expect a true conversation, not a monologue delivered by my date. I expect him to be interested in finding out what makes me tick, what my interests are, etc., so we can find commonalities and enjoy talking about common interests.
Stroll up to her place in a horse drawn chariot wearing an opera cape. Take off your hat. Kiss her right hand palm side down, "Your chariot awaits". Give her your jacket if it is cold, raining, or snowing. If there are any puddles, jump over them first, then carry her across. Or pick her up and walk over the puddle. Be nice to all the common folk, and treat retail workers with respect. When walking keep her on the side away from the road and be wary of any suspicious looking passerbys. You may have to draw your sword. Make sure it is long and in clean condition.
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Originally Posted by mach234
ladies is there a such thing as too long of a date?
I'm not a lady but I've heard of cases where even a second after meeting their date was too long of a date. The more interested and compatible she feels with you the longer the date can be up to a point.
To me going out to dinner where it is a few hours is good. I am female and will pay for my own and for me flowers on the first date is a little much. I know some women are different on that.
In terms of conversation just simple talk that is not trying too hard or too personal but allows a person to get to know each other. A sense of humor is nice but not when it is uncomfortable jokes if that makes sense? Of course being clean and dressed ok is important. Also don't be late.
After some bad past experiences, I do not want to be grilled on politics or religion, unless we already know we see eye-to-eye & it's sharing & relating, not being attacked or belittled. I like to talk about common interests & passions & share ideas & thoughts about life, mainly. Some basic details about you & your life are good, but not like a job interview.
where do you expect to be taken?
I don't really expect any certain place. I admit if the man asks me out, I do expect him to pay.
flowers? yay or nay?
Might be too much too soon, but I'd probably find it sweet & an unusual gesture in this day & age.
how long should it be? Depends on how well you click. A brief coffee date can be extended if you hit it off, for example. IMO, better to error on the brief side. I went on a first date once where we got sushi then when to a concert. By the end of sushi, we both knew it was not to be. But then wee had to go through the whole concert....at least the live music meant we didn't have to talk more.
I expect him to pay, flowers would be really nice, not too many nosy questions - it's a date, not a damned job interview, and for him to have enough manners not to fart, pick his nose or ears, or scratch his nads in my presence.
Actually Mr. THANG I paid for two first dates. And if I dated a guy longer I went dutch. But yes many paid. My son's ex was irritated when I tried to pay.
I'm not a lady but I've heard of cases where even a second after meeting their date was too long of a date. The more interested and compatible she feels with you the longer the date can be up to a point.
That's true, but I've also been on dates that lasted a long time because we were having such a great time. Coffee turned into lunch turned into street fair turned into scenic overlook, etc.
As to flowers, if you're picking her up at her house, okay, she can put them in a vase. Otherwise she'll have to carry them around wherever you go, which is a pain.
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