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Seems like a prerequisite for a relationship is an interest in sex. I have never been able to keep a girlfriend because eventually it ends in this subject and she becomes offended. I have no sex drive and never have, as for a relationship a friendship is fine, but when you befriend the opposite sex, others imply a sexual relationship. Does lack of interest in sex mean that you will live and die alone? I have always heard that most women hate sex, but have found that to be a lie.
Excuse me I'm having an off day here, maybe it's an issue with having a relationship, maybe you need the security of a solid relationship before you can have a sex drive. I have a friend like that, he could not have sex without a solid comitment, he went through some tough times but did get married and all is well. I would just date and see where it goes. I hope this makes sense.
To me you have to lead up to the sexual part. When its the first thing on your mind you probably won't go far. I always got lucky with becoming friends, get to know the women day by day, and eventually you can talk to them about sex. I don't know why you would want a woman just to "hang around" though.
Perhaps the OP feels as strongly about not needing sex in his/her relationship as strongly as we feel the need for it. Personally, I appreciate my husband in all physical manners, but I would never discount the sincerity of a relationship that didn't involve sex. In fact, I think we might learn a bit from such. Remove the need to physically attract someone in a sexual manner, and you'll get more of the substance of someone. Of course, I know things don't work this way...so slow your roll....I'm just stating an opinion.
I am a married to a man that has no (zero, zip, zilch) sex-drive. He was NOT honest about it, and still isn't. Only now, I am finding out that this has been a pattern for him his entire life - and that none of his relationships have lasted because of this. When an issue first appeared - he allowed me to assume that there was something physically wrong with him. It took me a year and a half to convince to him to see a Dr. Well, he has been to the Dr - and *surprise* - there is nothing physically wrong with him. Even the meds don't work. They only help physical issues, not mental. He refused to talk about it, be honest about it or to be intimate in any way with me. He has completely cut me off from all physical contact (beyond a brotherly peck on the lips). He even sleeps on the sofa rather than in bed with me because, I believe, he fears that I will initiate sex. Trust me, I am beyond begging/pushing for it now. I am a 33, he is 39. We live together like we are in our 90's. I wish that he would've been honest with me, even more so with himself. Now, we are married and sex is all but extinct. They say that a sexless marriage is less than 10 times a year. Well, we are certainly less than that. I don't know if something happened to him when he was a child - or, if he just is asexual.
All that I can say, is that there certainly ARE women out there that could care less about sex. However, the reality is - she will be difficult to find. (shrug) But that doesn't mean that you should stop looking, trying and wanting a loving relationship.
Just remember my story. Be honest about it. Always.
I am in a living heck of a marriage because he could not be honest with me about it. And, no, I would not have married him if he would have been honest with me and I knew that this is what our marriage was going to be like. It is pure emotional torture for me. He could care less.
My womanfriend and I had sex in the beginning, but we met when already mature and she is 6 years older, and then she got menopause and myself I felt a drastic diminution of my libido; we do not have sexual relationships since 3 years, although we hug and kiss much.
When I really feel a need, I go to see a streetwalker, I know it's sad.
I am not asexual, but at 50 I simply don't have the sexual drive I used to have and do not want to leave my partner , who is dear to me, for a fling.
My girlfriend has back problems. Sex usually means nothing more than "temporary" relief of her pain...which she pays for later. So we don't often engage in sex. Less than 10 times a year? In the past year, probably yes. Less than 10.
He-he, the more you hear from coupled people, the less it seems we singles miss on.
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