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This is something I've wondered about from my college days (decades ago). Sophomore year, I rented an apartment along with two other students I had met in the dorms the year before.
One of the guys, Bob (nineteen years old), was in a ten month friendzone with a girl (Mary, 18 years old). He was totally obsessed with her. Bob was a good guy. Sense of humor. Social.
Bob met Mary at a nearby grocery store where she worked part-time (she was not a student). Mary was very pretty and somewhat of a party girl. Mary lived at home with her parents about ten miles away, but she had no car. So Bob volunteered to drive her back and forth to work every time he could to win her over. Then sometimes after work, she would hang out our apartment with all of us. She made it clear that she wasn't interested in Bob in anything more than friends (friendzoned). However, Bob didn't give up.
He spent money on jewelry and clothes to try to buy her love. This went on for months. He spent most of his spare money on her. She was casually dating other college guys, but Bob was determined to be her boyfriend. He kept the attitude that she was going to be with him. I kept quiet, but inside I was doubtful.
Then, after ten months of being stuck in the friendzone, Bob excitedly told me that Mary had chosen him. They officially became boyfriend-girlfriend. After one month of dating, Bob and Mary got an apartment and moved in together. Mary was so passionate about him. She acted in awe about Bob thereafter. They were married within six months. They were still married years later and had children. I lost touch with them long ago. But I always wonder how Bob escaped the friendzone?
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Best way to escape the "friendzone" IMO: realize there ain't one in the first place and do not accept the "consolation prize" of friendship from someone you know damn well you want to be more than friends with.
Bob basically sold his soul, which I would totally slap him silly in an intervention if he was one of my buddies.
1) She lied about not being interested in him to see just how much time he'd invest chasing her around and how loyal he'd be. There are lots of women who enjoy that - for men to "prove" their love and devotion. I'm not one of them.
2) She really wasn't interested in him but he wore her down, so she finally gave in and really did start to like him after the fact and everything worked out. I did that before. Dated a guy just because he would... not... let... up. Ended up together for years. Then I left him.
Friendzone = Woman enjoys your company but doesn't find you sufficiently sexually attractive or monetarily endowed
What about sexually endowed or monetarily attractive?
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