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Well it is a new year and a new decade, time for a serious New Years Resolution. This year/decade resolution for me is a change to my social life.
Believe it or not, I have never had a date in my entire life. I grew up in a dysfunctional family where I was never given any positive reinforcement. In fact, my parents made me feel like I was nothing my entire life. Being very overweight has added to my social isolation.
I live with my divorced sister who has not dated a man in over 10 years. She has sworn off relationships and has encouraged me to do so also. Year after year passes and my social life continues to be a big O.
At work, I am a General Clerk in the Accounting Department and have pleasant non work related conversations at times with my coworkers. But I am not invited out to lunch or do I have any friends outside of work. I have tried to get involved with groups and social activities but usually people ignore me and give one word answers when I try to talk to them.
I have been seeing a Counselor through my Church who says I should attempt to go out on some dates. She suggested the Personal Ads. What do you think?
Are you Weekend Traveler/Bored and Stranded/Lonely?
I do not understand your question. Do I travel on weekends? No I am not really into traveling? Am I bored and stranded? Well, in a sense I am because I have no friends or anything to do?
Please reply to my question instead of speaking in codes.
If you are serious and not a resident troll, I'd work on getting more friends then start dating. Otherwise you may become to dependant on that one person which tends to turn into needy. You need some balance. Check with your local city forum on this site and see what's happening and events around you as well as people there you can connect with. Going out more gives you better chances to meet someone as well.
Thanks, but I go to events but do not get very far when I attempt to strike up conversations with people. I thought the Internet dating thing would get me a chance to get in front of people who are kind of forced to talk to me for at least a half hour and maybe they will learn to accept me.
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Originally Posted by Thursday007
If you are serious and not a resident troll, I'd work on getting more friends then start dating. Otherwise you may become to dependant on that one person which tends to turn into needy. You need some balance. Check with your local city forum on this site and see what's happening and events around you as well as people there you can connect with. Going out more gives you better chances to meet someone as well.
I think you should focus on working on your own issues, mainly feeling worthless all your life and your relationship with your parents and sister. Your upbringing obviously has had a major impact on your life. Hoping that people will be forced into accepting you is not a good idea. People who feel they are unworthy of love are not able to give love, because they don't know what loving behavior is like, or they find themselves in abusive or dysfunctional relationships. You need to like and respect yourself first.
I think you should focus on working on your own issues, mainly feeling worthless all your life and your relationship with your parents and sister. Your upbringing obviously has had a major impact on your life. Hoping that people will be forced into accepting you is not a good idea. People who feel they are unworthy of love are not able to give love, because they don't know what loving behavior is like, or they find themselves in abusive or dysfunctional relationships. You need to like and respect yourself first.
I completely agree! Go out and do things that YOU enjoy, that makes you happy and in the process you may meet some people who share those interests, you can't force anyone to accept you at best by forcing yourself on them you will get them to tolerate your presence until they can escape.
Check the City Data forum here for your city and see what people are doing and strike up friendships right here under your nose and that will better your chances of going out with other people.
Have you ever been to meetup.com? There are thousands of groups there, all sorts of people with different interests and things in common.
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