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Old 03-06-2014, 10:34 PM
 
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No. Dumb idea.
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Old 03-06-2014, 10:37 PM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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My mom and step dad dated when they were teens. Knew eachother from the age of 10.

They went their own ways. Mom married my dad, had my brother and I, life went on. Dad died, a couple years after that they got in contact again. Been married about 15 years now.
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Old 03-06-2014, 10:38 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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You both are different people now, no idea if it could work out....
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Old 03-07-2014, 10:47 AM
 
Location: between Mars and Venus
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I had same encounter where I ran into my ex years later after we broke off, we were an item at aged 18yo for few years... We got back in touch and he asked me out again, we were both single and I knew he wanted to get back together. We even went on a holiday together, but nothing happened because I'd realised my feelings for him are not the same anymore, so eventually we lost contact. Well, that was several years back and I never doubt it.
For your case, if you still feel connected to him as he does, go ahead and see what happens. Just make sure you both don't fall back into old patterns of whatever that caused your broke up.
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:12 AM
 
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Sure, why not? In 10 years you have both matured (hopefully).

Go on a date and see what happens. Keep it casual, something like an early lunch date (no alcohol) at place you can talk . It'll either lead to another date or it won't. Just don't sleep together, it'll skew or impose feelings that may not be there.

Good luck!
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:16 AM
 
Location: Pa
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This would make an interesting thread. Would you redate someone from your past?
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:23 AM
 
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Hello all,
I have recently gotten back in touch with a long term (couple years) ex from 10 years ago. We were young, 19/20, when we dated. Above all else, we were truly best friends. When things were good, it was by far the BEST relationship I have had. (I have had several, and know what I am looking for now). When we're together it feels like it was yesterday that we dated. Not that its been 10 years since we were even in touch.
I am aware and have kept in mind the reasons that made the relationship fail the first time. He has grown up since then. I want to learn from the past, not forget, but move forward.

I am thinking about giving it another go, not because I am lonely, but because of the connection we STILL have, even after all these years. I know he wants the same thing.

Can an old relationship really workout for the long run?
Maybe I'm wrong, but sounds like the reason why you're holding back is because you were more emotionally invested and don't want to feel hurt again.
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:36 AM
 
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I will leave out the details...you'll have to buy the book to find those...but....

Dated a girl in my teens.....we were on different paths, but made it work because we cared to make it work.

A third party (her mother) sort of interloped and gave me the wrong message, and told her daughter differently for reasons yet to be determined.

Nevertheless, three marriages, and a lot of days/weeks/months/years wondering about the "what ifs," our paths crossed again (it wasn't that simple, but for purposes of brevity). That whole process took the better part of thirty years.

The past ten years have been a wonderful renaissance in our lives. I feel like I have been given a VERY special gift.

Perhaps you will too. No reason to not at least open the package.
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Old 03-07-2014, 05:31 PM
 
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Points for Ted Bear for an uplifting story!
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