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It goes like this. When I brought up going to Grad School back east to my guidance counselor, when I came home dad asked about it. He was expecting my counselor to completely downplay it and talk me out of it, she didn't. When I told him she didn't, he exclaimed that she "wasn't doing her G-D F'ing job" and demanded to speak to her with me over the phone. Worst part, he acted so cordial over the phone.
This is outrageous! But I bet she stuck to her guns (politely), and kinda set dad straight. She is, after all, an academic adviser. It's her job to encourage students to continue their educations, if their record shows they can handle the work. I also think it's safe to assume Dad didn't buy what she was selling.
What does Dad expect you to do, go work in a factory somewhere all your life?
The important thing is, if you want to become independent, you have to plan solidly for it. A little less dreaming, more concrete, practical, do-able plans. Step by step. The road trip can be a good temporary escape, but if you want to pull off the independence long-term, it has to be more than that, or you'll end up slinking back home with your tail between your legs. Good idea to keep your local job, though, just in case the best-laid plans fall through.
P.S. BRAVO, Zennie! *applause* Great story!
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I know as a man a woman better have certain traits or I'm bouncing, why is it so bad that a woman would want a man with a decent job and a little cashola???
What does Dad expect you to do, go work in a factory somewhere all your life?
Not sure why that is such a bad thing, good honest hard work never killed anyone.... plus the world needs janitors and other low end jobs, shyt has to get done.....
I know as a man a woman better have certain traits or I'm bouncing, why is it so bad that a woman would want a man with a decent job and a little cashola???
Traditional women do like a man to have be secure financially because should a woman want to stay home with children, a man needs to be earning enough to afford that. It's not like someone working the drive thru isn't attractive, it's that the financial security isn't there.
Traditional women do like a man to have be secure financially because should a woman want to stay home with children, a man needs to be earning enough to afford that. It's not like someone working the drive thru isn't attractive, it's that the financial security isn't there.
I agree. I think people overlook this aspect of it. The guys on here who start crying about how women only want guys who are financially secure, also tend to be the same guys who expect their wives to stay home and raise the kids when the time comes.
Traditional women do like a man to have be secure financially because should a woman want to stay home with children, a man needs to be earning enough to afford that. It's not like someone working the drive thru isn't attractive, it's that the financial security isn't there.
I guess I'm not worried about it cause I've always made some serious greenbacks.....
This is outrageous! But I bet she stuck to her guns (politely), and kinda set dad straight. She is, after all, an academic adviser. It's her job to encourage students to continue their educations, if their record shows they can handle the work. I also think it's safe to assume Dad didn't buy what she was selling.
What does Dad expect you to do, go work in a factory somewhere all your life?
The important thing is, if you want to become independent, you have to plan solidly for it. A little less dreaming, more concrete, practical, do-able plans. Step by step. The road trip can be a good temporary escape, but if you want to pull off the independence long-term, it has to be more than that, or you'll end up slinking back home with your tail between your legs. Good idea to keep your local job, though, just in case the best-laid plans fall through.
P.S. BRAVO, Zennie! *applause* Great story!
It happened last October. Here it is plain, my dad doesn't want me going to graduate school, he has no say in it, and he has even worse to say about where I want to go for it. I've told you before, he doesn't want be going to a "n*gger state like Mississippi" for college. He's so convinced in how right he is about it, as I said, he flat told me that my advisor wasn't "doing her job". Top that off, he constantly recounts how I'm going to financially destroy myself going out of state for Grad School.
And then...he acted cordial to my advisor. Second he got off the phone he restates how "F'd up my goals are".
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Not sure why that is such a bad thing, good honest hard work never killed anyone.... plus the world needs janitors and other low end jobs, shyt has to get done.....
Factory work sounds more dignified compared to mopping up **** after someone just apathetically let their child pee all over the grocery store tile. Because, I've already been there.
I used to have the option screamed at me a lot a few years back, namely because "if you're going for a history major you can get the f*ck out and join the army because I won't support it."
I was grappling with bad depression back then, I just don't see how any applications I have would do any good in the service.
Sides that, I'd rather rot on the side of the road in poverty in at least an attempt at doing what I want than go through that again.
I used to have the option screamed at me a lot a few years back, namely because "if you're going for a history major you can get the f*ck out and join the army because I won't support it."
I was grappling with bad depression back then, I just don't see how any applications I have would do any good in the service.
Sides that, I'd rather rot on the side of the road in poverty in at least an attempt at doing what I want than go through that again.
But with a degree you may be able to join as an officer ... huge difference. And it is a sure bet to get you out from under your father. And you would be able to get the military to pay for your grad degree when you finish. Just a thought.
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