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They don't respond in "a day or two" and you dismiss them? Sorry if this comes as a shock to you but many people do have real lives outside the world of internet dating. "Good Grief" is my thought.
Also the women I initiate contact with...and they read my profile, don't reply and delete my email I have respect for.
I am not an online dater, but if a man expected communication from me daily (even if I was face to face casually dating him) I'd consider that he did me a favor if he blocked me. Controlling much?
Really? I can't think of any girls I've dated where we don't talk every day.
Don't initiate contact and express interest and expect me to stick around if you do not have respect enough to say "hey, i'm busy today and tomorrow" and expect me to take you seriously.
I won't be dating you then. I don't expect much, if anything, out of someone I just exchanged a few messages with on the internet. What you said here would be way more appropriate in a real relationship.
I imagine if a girl won't go out with you, a voodoo doll with her name appears... there's no need to block them just because they don't reply? Post a sample of your message so we can figure out why.
I imagine if a girl won't go out with you, a voodoo doll with her name appears... there's no need to block them just because they don't reply? Post a sample of your message so we can figure out why.
Look, I'm successful with online dating. I'm going to approach this from a pick-up artist angle and a lot of guys aren't going to like that. Take comfort if women are initiating contact then your profile is solid a lot of guys don't even get that. So, were this a pick-up site I would ask you to post your profile and I would help you tweak it but, but, but since you are getting contact then your profile is solid. So, no need and this isn't a pick-up site.
Where I think you are going wrong is your are not building comfort and attraction in your messages. A common mistake men make in the online dating world is to write lengthy messages or if they write short messages a lot of it is about themselves. Don't do this, that is what your profile is for. The goal of the message is to build comfort and attraction. How do you do this?
I do this by playing games with her. No, not psychological games but rather games that will get her to open and talk about herself and share more of herself. So, for example, a game I will play that is successful is, "tell me the first three animals that pop into your head and I'll tell you about your personalty." Notice, I'm not talking about myself or talking about me but rather I'm trying to get to know her better through a fun game. The way this game works is the first animal is how people see her, the last animal is how she sees herself and the middle animal is what she is looking for in a man. I'll do a reading of her then ask how accurate I was and then I will tell her three animals that come to mind for me after reading her response and ask her to do the same thing to me. It's just a fun game and it build bonding, comfort and attraction.
Let the hate mail begin...
Yeah, these games did not work in my case, as I could see what they (only a couple) were doing. I was bored to tears.
There needs to be something more substantial to discuss than picking animals to get a "reading." And I was one who appreciated lengthier messages if they showed genuine interest. My BF's response to my message was a good 4-5 decent sized paragraphs. I've received quite a few lengthy initial messages. This tells me they actually read my profile and are intrigued.
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