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Unbelievable! So this is what modern life for teens/20's has come to? OY!
Same "I can't blah, blah, blah (fill in the blank) because I text instead of use my voice to actually speak, live and in person" earth shattering issues, different member name.
I seriously hope very soon those who text all the time learn how to use their voices and speak face to face with other humans very soon.
But I think I got an idea mapped in my head after going through many missed opportunities over the years.
Even though you talked to her for 4 months on the phone, I think meeting up in person is a whole different ball game. So it could be kind of like starting from scratch in a way.
I think you are a bit nervous about whether she will respond positively if you do approach her face to face.
If I understand where you are coming from, I don't think you have much to worry about.
You could introduce yourself as the guy who's a good friend on the phone. Good way to break the ice I guess.
I think trying to not mess up the first approach is holding you back.
In my opinion, you could take it casually, so that you don't care too much if she doesn't respond positively to you in person.
That way, at least you will approach her and you will know how she will respond.
If you believe that you are going to mess up, think long and hard about why you think you will mess up. Or get someone in real life who will give truthful and honest feedback on why. In that case, you must figure out why and if it's within your control, try to fix it to a level that you are happy with.
Just some thought for you. Sorry if I totally missed your question.
Send her a text saying you'd like to talk to her in person for a change. Maybe both of you are fairly young and are not ready for a real relationship yet. That's okay.
Start with something simple and socially neutral like working on homework or a class project together. Go to the library together and look at books.
You may be putting too much pressure on yourself by making the transition now, especially if you're not comfortable together in person. Be sure to let her know that you've enjoyed your time as virtual friends, even if reality changes everything else.
I'd say its time to drop the texting with this girl and start some personal interaction or your potential relationship will never happen and you'll end up like 2 ships passing in the night.
Invite her personally (no phone)to some event you both might enjoy, take her to an informal coffee shop after the event,at the end of the day tell her you had fun with her and youd like to do something similar again,take it easy and dont rush it keep it classy, give it about a week then ask her out again, things will either start to fall in place or they wont,
one things for sure it aint ever going to happen over the phone.
No you do not. What you need advice on is your view of girls. If you think the way you should talk to girls differs from how you talk to guys - then you are wrong. They are people too. Simply talk to them AS people - like you would to any person.
Yep, what monumentus said.
OP - you are making this WAY harder than it needs to be.
OP, stop setting yourself up for virtual life only. Get out and talk to real people.
BTW: Stay away from PUA stuff.
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