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Invite her out on Thursday 2 7.69%
Talk to her in a few weeks maybe 4 15.38%
Hardcore no contact 20 76.92%
Voters: 26. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 03-11-2014, 06:31 PM
 
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I made my thread about the girl I really liked (who seemed to like me) who, out of the blue, said she doesn't see this going any further because she still has feelings for someone else. She claims I'm a great guy and the date was great but she doesn't want to lead me on


My friends are telling me to invite her out for a casual hang out on Thursday with our group at the bar (same bar I initially met her at)...let her know it's for fun. I dunno what to do. I was going to do hardcore no contact


What should I do?
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Davenport, Iowa
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Do what you want.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Fight for her dude she isn't married she can be yours.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:34 PM
 
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Well first, stop thinking about her as ""my girl".
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:35 PM
 
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Fight for her dude she isn't married she can be yours.

I don't want to be that thirsty desperate dude and I don't want to fall for somebody who doesn't seem to like me as much


but man I really liked her and I felt amazing chemistry between us the entire time (especially when we kissed). How do you go from that to "I don't think this can go any further"?
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:35 PM
 
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Go no contact because obviously you still have feelings so having her around is not going to help with burying those feelings. You know this is true, but you need to maintain some sense of control here over yourself.

They are a billion other fish out there, stop focusing on one that doesn't want to get on your hook.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:36 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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She said move on.

Move on.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:37 PM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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I say move on, dude.
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:38 PM
 
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Go no contact because obviously you still have feelings so having her around is not going to help with burying those feelings. You know this is true, but you need to maintain some sense of control here over yourself.

My friend claims that the more she hangs out with me, the more likely she is to develop feelings for me. He is 40 and has had a lot of dating experience


I've withdrawn almost all my interest. I'm not going to get emotionally invested again unless she shows that she is interested in me
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Old 03-11-2014, 06:42 PM
 
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My friend claims that the more she hangs out with me, the more likely she is to develop feelings for me. He is 40 and has had a lot of dating experience

I've withdrawn almost all my interest. I'm not going to get emotionally invested again unless she shows that she is interested in me
Your friend doesn't know what he is talking about in this situation unless you have forgotten to share something with us about this situation. Sometimes even if you want this you have to let the line out to tire the fish and then reel it in when it is more amenable. In other words, by letting her go and not doing what your buddy told you to do you will probably increase your chances of her swaying.

MOVE ON
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