I Need womens advice on how to keep a girl interested. (married, single)
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I say wrong, wrong on this. It's precisely the strong women who need/want a strong man. If she's spacing you out this much, it means she isn't going home dreaming about you, which is what girls do when they are smitten. She may like your company, but I'd say so far you have not been generating those chemicals that make her tingle when she sees your number in her phone, and that's (IMO) because there's not enough male/female polarity because you are being passive and letting her lead the relationship.
I would also disgree about not showing "signs". It's a vibe - do you send out a confident and comfortable in your skin vibe, or a nervous "I hope I can say the right thing" vibe? The feeling shows, even if the words don't. When we're attached to outcome, we tend to think about what we are going to say, measure our responses to match the other...preventing her from getting to know YOU and that will be a turn off, too.
I don't think she's in need of a "strong man", I think she has a busy social life and just really values her time with friends and family and doesn't want to be spending a lot of time dating, texting or talking on the phone. She's been spacing me out from the first moment I contacted her so it's nothing new. She probably spaces everyone out.
I don't act nervous when around her I'm just a trying to gauge where I'm at with her. I'm calm, cool and collected and we seem to enjoy each others company,but the whole spacing me out gets me wondering a bit, is she actually dating a bunch of other guys? I'm not used to it, all the other girls I've met were just the opposite with contact via text at least once every 3 days.
I'm planning on texting her tonight, it's been 5 days since I last saw/contacted her. If she says she's busy next week I'm probably gonna move on. Another girl messaged me, I have better things to do than wait around for one girl that always wants to put me on ice.
Last edited by Lost Leaf; 03-23-2014 at 12:08 PM..
I don't think she's in need of a "strong man", I think she has a busy social life and just really values her time with friends and family and doesn't want to be spending a lot of time dating, texting or talking on the phone. She's been spacing me out from the first moment I contacted her so it's nothing new. She probably spaces everyone out.
I don't act nervous when around her I'm just a trying to gauge where I'm at with her. I'm calm, cool and collected and we seem to enjoy each others company,but the whole spacing me out gets me wondering a bit, is she actually dating a bunch of other guys? I'm not used to it, all the other girls I've met were just the opposite with contact via text at least once every 3 days.
I'm planning on texting her tonight, it's been 5 days since I last saw/contacted her. If she says she's busy next week I'm probably gonna move on. Another girl messaged me, I have better things to do than wait around for one girl that always wants to put me on ice.
Women who have fallen for a man, women who are very attracted to a man...don't space dates out like this, they make room no matter what. This is truth, you can believe it or not.
You asked a question, and then rationalize the answers away. if you'd had a lot of success in the past with your ability to get and keep women interested, you wouldn't be asking at all, so maybe opening your mind rather than defending what hasn't worked might get you better results.
I don't think she's in need of a "strong man", I think she has a busy social life and just really values her time with friends and family and doesn't want to be spending a lot of time dating, texting or talking on the phone. She's been spacing me out from the first moment I contacted her so it's nothing new. She probably spaces everyone out.
I don't act nervous when around her I'm just a trying to gauge where I'm at with her. I'm calm, cool and collected and we seem to enjoy each others company,but the whole spacing me out gets me wondering a bit, is she actually dating a bunch of other guys? I'm not used to it, all the other girls I've met were just the opposite with contact via text at least once every 3 days.
I'm planning on texting her tonight, it's been 5 days since I last saw/contacted her. If she says she's busy next week I'm probably gonna move on. Another girl messaged me, I have better things to do than wait around for one girl that always wants to put me on ice.
I wouldn't bother. And I wouldn't care if she was seeing others or not. Neither of you is into the other, so let it go. If you were into each other, you wouldn't go days without contact, and neither of you would be so wishy-washy about making plans.
Don't keep on just because she was willing to go out with you once or twice. Find someone who makes you want to reach out, not count the days before it's socially acceptable enough to contact her again, and that someone wants to see you rather than put you off a week at a time. I don't see anything in what you've written that is worth an ounce more of your time and effort in pursuing.
If a woman legitimately likes you she will make room in her schedule for plans with you. Even if she can't do it the day you suggested she will offer an alternative.
I don't think she's in need of a "strong man", I think she has a busy social life and just really values her time with friends and family and doesn't want to be spending a lot of time dating, texting or talking on the phone. She's been spacing me out from the first moment I contacted her so it's nothing new. She probably spaces everyone out.
I don't act nervous when around her I'm just a trying to gauge where I'm at with her. I'm calm, cool and collected and we seem to enjoy each others company,but the whole spacing me out gets me wondering a bit, is she actually dating a bunch of other guys? I'm not used to it, all the other girls I've met were just the opposite with contact via text at least once every 3 days.
I'm planning on texting her tonight, it's been 5 days since I last saw/contacted her. If she says she's busy next week I'm probably gonna move on. Another girl messaged me, I have better things to do than wait around for one girl that always wants to put me on ice.
I've got to admit man, it's not looking good. Most girls who are in to you don't really act like this.
If it's been that long and she hasn't made the effort to contact you.. just forget her. It's not really worth your time. You said you're talking to another girl.. just go with that.
Don't make a big scene out of it... but make your effort with her basically 0. Don't text or call her. You've done enough, move on. She's not that special, no one is.
I've had girls that are head over heels for me and girls that pull that crap on me that she's doing. The ones that pull that stuff are never really interested. I've learned to detect it really quick, they aren't worth your time. Dating is way more fun when the girl is actually excited to talk to you. Why put yourself through that?
Women who have fallen for a man, women who are very attracted to a man...don't space dates out like this, they make room no matter what. This is truth, you can believe it or not.
You asked a question, and then rationalize the answers away. if you'd had a lot of success in the past with your ability to get and keep women interested, you wouldn't be asking at all, so maybe opening your mind rather than defending what hasn't worked might get you better results.
I've never made much effort to keep most of the women I met interested because I wasn't that interested in her. If she's not interested why did she reach out to me and ask me if I wanted to go to a basketball game with her? I know it was free but she could have asked another guy.
If a woman legitimately likes you she will make room in her schedule for plans with you. Even if she can't do it the day you suggested she will offer an alternative.
So far she has made room it's just that the dates are spaced a week out with no contact in-between. I'm just hoping it's how the way she is, I could be wrong. I won't give up yet, that's the problem with everyone in the dating scene these days. Everyone gives up so easily.
So far she has made room it's just that the dates are spaced a week out with no contact in-between. I'm just hoping it's how the way she is, I could be wrong. I won't give up yet, that's the problem with everyone in the dating scene these days. Everyone gives up so easily.
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