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Old 03-13-2014, 11:44 AM
 
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In other words: I'm trying to say that my singles site profile (paid site) gets a small number of constant repeat visits from women who are usually 25-75 miles away from me. These women never post any messages or flirts, they have profiles that often indicate they aren't looking for someone like me and they tend to ignore or brush me off if I message or flirt with them.

I'm 5'6", one tall woman insists on a man over 6'......I'm balding, a woman demands a full head of hair. I'm marriage minded or serious, some of these women are looking for casual, friendship, travel partners.

I was curious to know if these women even know that they are "visiting" my profile on a regular basis or if the singles site themselves might be "arranging" for these profiles and pictures to show up in order to make me think I'm more popular on their site than I am............In which case my profile might be showing up in places I've never been to.

Anyone else notice this happens to them?
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Old 03-13-2014, 11:55 AM
 
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I don't know what those women are thinking... but I know I tend to do this and I know why. I do a search for men in my age, certain age range, etc, etc and then read their profiles to see if I am interested. I do this search once a week and read all the profiles (lately I've been limiting it to "new" profiles to keep things reasonable... but the "new" ones seem to last several weeks).

For some reason, my brain has a hard time remembering faces... so what I end up doing is forgetting that I already viewed a man's profile until after I click on him and re-read his profile. As I read I think, "oh yeah... I saw him before" and I leave the profile with no message because I already messaged him (and he didn't respond before) or there was something in the profile that told me not to send a message (like a major compatibility issue... like he wants a younger woman than me... or he can't be around dogs or people who own them... or he is looking for a person who shares their political or religious convictions, etc). I usually just don't fit what they are looking for so I don't message... or they don't fit what I want (with the biggest being "I am going though a divorce right now" That's my biggest red flag... it means he's still married and is in the middle of a lot of drama).
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Old 03-13-2014, 11:55 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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It happens. I ignored it when I did a lot of OLD. OKC is especially prevalent for this. No biggie, lots of time people are just killing times on these sites.
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Old 03-13-2014, 01:00 PM
 
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In other words: I'm trying to say that my singles site profile (paid site) gets a small number of constant repeat visits from women who are usually 25-75 miles away from me. These women never post any messages or flirts, they have profiles that often indicate they aren't looking for someone like me and they tend to ignore or brush me off if I message or flirt with them.

I'm 5'6", one tall woman insists on a man over 6'......I'm balding, a woman demands a full head of hair. I'm marriage minded or serious, some of these women are looking for casual, friendship, travel partners.

I was curious to know if these women even know that they are "visiting" my profile on a regular basis or if the singles site themselves might be "arranging" for these profiles and pictures to show up in order to make me think I'm more popular on their site than I am............In which case my profile might be showing up in places I've never been to.

Anyone else notice this happens to them?

I did not know there was an option that indicates how many times a person clicked on your profile.
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Old 03-13-2014, 01:04 PM
 
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I did not know there was an option that indicates how many times a person clicked on your profile.
The site I am on will tell you when someone has looked at your profile. It the same person looks one day and then looks again another, they come up twice. I've seen men come up on my "checked my profile" list one day and then a few days later and then a few days later, etc. It doesn't give me a number, but I can look at see the same picture of the same man, with the same user name several times in that list. This kind of thing might be what the OP is talking about.
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Old 03-13-2014, 01:49 PM
 
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The site I am on will tell you when someone has looked at your profile. It the same person looks one day and then looks again another, they come up twice. I've seen men come up on my "checked my profile" list one day and then a few days later and then a few days later, etc. It doesn't give me a number, but I can look at see the same picture of the same man, with the same user name several times in that list. This kind of thing might be what the OP is talking about.

Oh okay, I just logged in and found something similar. Somebody must like my profile. I'm getting views and messages.
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Old 03-13-2014, 02:00 PM
 
Location: northwest Illinois
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In other words: I'm trying to say that my singles site profile (paid site) gets a small number of constant repeat visits from women who are usually 25-75 miles away from me. These women never post any messages or flirts, they have profiles that often indicate they aren't looking for someone like me and they tend to ignore or brush me off if I message or flirt with them.

I'm 5'6", one tall woman insists on a man over 6'......I'm balding, a woman demands a full head of hair. I'm marriage minded or serious, some of these women are looking for casual, friendship, travel partners.

I was curious to know if these women even know that they are "visiting" my profile on a regular basis or if the singles site themselves might be "arranging" for these profiles and pictures to show up in order to make me think I'm more popular on their site than I am............In which case my profile might be showing up in places I've never been to.

Anyone else notice this happens to them?
You're over thinking it, if they message you then goody gum drops! If they just look at you and go away then big deal. Click and NEXT victim.
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Old 03-13-2014, 02:06 PM
 
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For some reason, my brain has a hard time remembering faces... so what I end up doing is forgetting that I already viewed a man's profile until after I click on him and re-read his profile.
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This is likely the most possible answer. I did the same thing in the past. It was even harder to remember if people changed main photos.
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Old 03-13-2014, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Online dating sites are the best time killers in the world. I just click links and profiles and move on.

Also, if someone visits your page and doesn't message you... that does not mean they might be interested because they visited your page. It means they're not interested because they didn't send you a message.
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Old 03-15-2014, 12:35 AM
 
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Online dating sites are the best time killers in the world. I just click links and profiles and move on.

Also, if someone visits your page and doesn't message you... that does not mean they might be interested because they visited your page. It means they're not interested because they didn't send you a message.
Maybe she goes by the standard of "A lady musn't make the first move"?
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