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So you would pass on a perfectly lovely woman who was a complementary partner to you simply because she earned more money? How dumb is that. Oh and that's not called traditional, that's called being a sexist knuckle dragger.
I ride a motorcycle so I guess I am a sexist knuckledragger.
I never said I would pass on the girl I just said I wouldn't like it. I would honestly just put in the extra work to make sure I out earn her. You should calm down next time instead of getting at someones throat because they have a view that collides with your own.
People often say that but find substantial inequality within a relationship a dealbreaker.
Some guys can support themselves on $15K but they will practically never be taken seriously by women making $100K.
Great disparity such as this would be very problematic for both.
I think a good working definition of "support themselves" may be in the context of being financially able to support themselves within a similar standard of living. (Two people with marginally disparate incomes may still be living basically the same, or similar standards of living and be very financially compatable. In your example, a man who manages to support themselves on below poverty level wages is not likely to be living anywhere close to the same standard of living as someone making 100K.
Of course, basic salary is not the end all here either, as other assets, net worth, debt, etc come into play.
I expect a partner to make a similar income to what I make. (I'm in a high paying career in a very high cost of living area, so yes, it's going to be on the very high end of that poll.)
I don't want children and have always wanted to be a DINK. I'm a bit of a yuppie; I have expensive tastes (which I currently fund on my own. If I was partnered, it would be best if my SO made similar income so we could continue this kind of lifestyle.)
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Reason: saved too soon.
Apparently you're not aware of the trend ofwomen marrying down in financial status. I certainly did, and was the primary breadwinner by far in my marriage. Too bad he felt that entitled him to life as a perpetual student.
I actually agree with you(can't believe I'm saying this), right now there are more women in college then men. In the next couple of decades women are going to be making way more than men, so either women are going to have to "mary down" or turn lesbian.
Inequity in any relationship, whether it be financial, time, sexual or other major area will typically lead to some amount of conflict. Like they say most divorces are over financial differences.
People in our society love to underestimate financial stability and survival.
Living costs money. If you want to live in a certain type of house in a certain type of neighborhood, you need a spouse who can afford to pay half of that mortgage unless you want to pay the whole thing.
The point of this thread is useless. 50k a year can go very far in some cities, others it won't get you anywhere. Also I can see where some women won't answer truthfully as it might make them appear as 'gold diggers'.
I also want to stress some women are clueless about expenses, so while they 'say' they would be happy to date a man making only 50k, they are left upset when reality sets in and they are not going on vacations, eating out as often as they would like, and end up staying at home too often because there are less opportunities to go out due to financial limitations.
Actually, crap now I am hungry for a cheesesteak from jims! I might do the drive tonight!
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