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My husband vowed, publicly and privately to never marry again. I was fine with that and never mentioned marriage. Then he went and proposed.
He probably figured it was that or pee on me, and I'm not really into that.
Now I don't think he would go back on the no more kids thing because his are almost grown and he is looking forward to retirement. It's a non-issue because he had his tubes tied into a gordian knot and I had a hysterectomy, and we're old. /lol
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would you be willing to compromise your own convictions on things like marriage and having children?
I think that for some people who have yet to ever be truly in love, there is a struggle with understanding stuff like this.
Here's the thing...when you find the right person, it's not that you "compromise your convictions" to be with them
It's simply that being with them brings out fresh perspective on some things that you could not have appreciated without this kind of love in your life.
The "right" person ENHANCES your life in all ways, including motivating and shaping you into the best you that you can be.
This frequently means changing some of those black and white lines in the sand we all draw when we are young
Marriage; very outside chance. I don't want to get married because I don't believe in the institution but I could see myself taking a shot if I have a very LTR with a girl.
Having children; absolutely not. I'm childfree and that is something you should NOT compromise on.
This is generally my view as well. My skepticism on marraige doesn't have so much do with the institution (though that's a factor), but rather the likelihood of coming across a woman so amazing that I'd be inclined to change my views in the first place. I've dated some pretty amazing women and still felt the need to date others as well. She's have to be pretty damn awesome for me to change my mindset.
I think that for some people who have yet to ever be truly in love, there is a struggle with understanding stuff like this.
Here's the thing...when you find the right person, it's not that you "compromise your convictions" to be with them
It's simply that being with them brings out fresh perspective on some things that you could not have appreciated without this kind of love in your life.
The "right" person ENHANCES your life in all ways, including motivating and shaping you into the best you that you can be.
This frequently means changing some of those black and white lines in the sand we all draw when we are young
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