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I believe it is. Growing up I saw relationships and having a boyfriend/girlfriend was glamorized so much on TV, books, movies, etc. In almost every fictional story there is romantic interest. I think the whole idea of being with someone you care about and they care about you sounds wonderful, but I believe it takes a lot of time and work to get that connection with someone. I am asking because I am in my early 20s and my family and the people around me have noted numerous times how unusual it is for me to have never been in a relationship or interacted romantically with anyone.
I think if love truly exists it will happen in its own time for everyone. It does get annoying because people blow it out of proportion and think I have something wrong with me because I have never had a companion nor shared a kiss with anyone yet. I think it's fine for me, but the pressure to be with someone in our society is ridiculous. We all want love in one way or the other but why rush? People say the older I get the less people there would be to choose from. It wouldn't be like that if there wasn't so much pressure to date in the first place. It's hard for me to connect with any and everyone so that is the prime reason I am not dating. I am going to start school in a little over a week and I am seeking part time employment. I have bigger things to focus on.
I'm not saying people should wait until they are in their 30s or 40s to date, I just think if we weren't pressured so much, we wouldn't have so many of the relationship issues we have today. People don't take the time to work on themselves at all. This is my opinion but what do you think?
I believe it is. Growing up I saw relationships and having a boyfriend/girlfriend was glamorized so much on TV, books, movies, etc. In almost every fictional story there is romantic interest. I think the whole idea of being with someone you care about and they care about you sounds wonderful, but I believe it takes a lot of time and work to get that connection with someone. I am asking because I am in my early 20s and my family and the people around me have noted numerous times how unusual it is for me to have never been in a relationship or interacted romantically with anyone.
I think if love truly exists it will happen in its own time for everyone. It does get annoying because people blow it out of proportion and think I have something wrong with me because I have never had a companion nor shared a kiss with anyone yet. I think it's fine for me, but the pressure to be with someone in our society is ridiculous. We all want love in one way or the other but why rush? People say the older I get the less people there would be to choose from. It wouldn't be like that if there wasn't so much pressure to date in the first place. It's hard for me to connect with any and everyone so that is the prime reason I am not dating. I am going to start school in a little over a week and I am seeking part time employment. I have bigger things to focus on.
I'm not saying people should wait until they are in their 30s or 40s to date, I just think if we weren't pressured so much, we wouldn't have so many of the relationship issues we have today. People don't take the time to work on themselves at all. This is my opinion but what do you think?
The issue isn't "society", it's something internal to you. You are not comfortable, for whatever personal reasons, but that is something you have to work on for yourself. It's not society's fault that you march to a different drummer, the key is finding happiness in doing so.
Let me explain this the best I can without; quotes(Which are important) Or any actual facts. So; you have adam.... and he's lonely and depressed and feels like something is missing yet he can have anything he wants. God offer's another human being, and thus the human race started, by the girl being upset that his man will not get him the only thing in the forest that they cannot have.
I believe it is. Growing up I saw relationships and having a boyfriend/girlfriend was glamorized so much on TV, books, movies, etc. In almost every fictional story there is romantic interest. I think the whole idea of being with someone you care about and they care about you sounds wonderful, but I believe it takes a lot of time and work to get that connection with someone. I am asking because I am in my early 20s and my family and the people around me have noted numerous times how unusual it is for me to have never been in a relationship or interacted romantically with anyone.
I think if love truly exists it will happen in its own time for everyone. It does get annoying because people blow it out of proportion and think I have something wrong with me because I have never had a companion nor shared a kiss with anyone yet. I think it's fine for me, but the pressure to be with someone in our society is ridiculous. We all want love in one way or the other but why rush? People say the older I get the less people there would be to choose from. It wouldn't be like that if there wasn't so much pressure to date in the first place. It's hard for me to connect with any and everyone so that is the prime reason I am not dating. I am going to start school in a little over a week and I am seeking part time employment. I have bigger things to focus on.
I'm not saying people should wait until they are in their 30s or 40s to date, I just think if we weren't pressured so much, we wouldn't have so many of the relationship issues we have today. People don't take the time to work on themselves at all. This is my opinion but what do you think?
These are things you need to tell your family when THEY pressure you.
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We're social beings. I can't think of a primate/ape species that isn't social.
You're focusing on romantic social relationships, and I think those might be a bit oversold in society, but they're far far from the only types of social relationships. The reality is most people will only have one romantic social relationship at a time, with some having multiples and some people having none. But you do have several, if not dozens, or even hundreds of non romantic social relationships going on all the time.
My mailman doesn't speak to me either. Repped.
Oh, and it is silliness to think you can't "work on yourself" and date at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive. I learn a lot about myself through the interactions I have while dating.
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No. Love truly is the greatest thing in the world. And you don't need to have tunnel vision in life and only do one thing at a time.
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