I have a bit of a dilemma with a guy.. (friend, emotionally)
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You talk to a guy for years and you're too afraid to meet him? Sounds weird.
Stay in a hotel and take the opportunity to visit another country.
It's a pretty simple solution, OP. If you can't afford a hotel, there might be hostels or backpackers' hotels, for cheap. Take the chance to see another country, live a little, and come out of your shell. Travel can give you confidence.
I have a bit of a dilemma. So this guy I have been talking to online for a few years wants me to stay with him for a week in his country but I don't feel comfortable doing that. I really have no excuse actually since I do have the money to get there and we both talked about it. Being alone with a guy, in his house, in his home country, doesn't seem that right. He seemed excited by it, I was too for a bit in the beginning but now I am just not ready for any in person relationship. I am somewhat OK with being online buddies but I am having a lot of guilt. Dude is a cool guy and I do find him somewhat sexually appealing but in contrast to me I'm am just not all that appealing to be around tbh. I'm ugly, stupid, and horribly self absorbed. But he still continues to say it doesn't matter. He hasn't made an attempt to see me but I can see his reason when he told me he got burned before by some woman.
Meeting people that wants to talk to me is s very hard for me online and off so losing him a friend will hurt. I don't need many friends cause I am content with just my computer but having someone to vent to every month or so is nice too.
I don't like feeling all this guilt and crap..this is why I don't like to invest emotionally with people.
No way in h-e-l-l would I travel to another country to spend a week with a guy who I've never met. That is just dangerous. You don't know who this guy is.
No way in h-e-l-l would I travel to another country to spend a week with a guy who I've never met. That is just dangerous. You don't know who this guy is.
How'd you find the photo, Empress?
Wtf is with that poster.
Right click, save, upload to Google image search.
Also, no physician in his right mind would post his photo on a forum like this, never mind be so blunt and rude as the person who stole the photo. It's not only a great way to damage his reputation, depending on his state medical board, it could get him into trouble. More and more, boards are putting out ethical guidelines about the the use of social media. I've reported the profile, and if it's not removed, I'll just drop the doctor in question a line and let him take it up with City-Data. This is the kind of thing that can be construed as libel. I have a lot of professional interaction with physicians. Stealing a photo like that is unacceptable.
I'm not trying to play psychologist but you seem very closed off and introverted, maybe seeing things in a negative light.
I'd say go for it. Do something you've never done and never thought you'd do. You can spend the rest of your life online without leaving the state or go on an adventure halfway around the world.
But the problem is, once you are there, you're there. You almost have to make something work. And if you are how I described above, you may not let yourself out of your comfort zone and be in for a very bad trip with no easy way out. But if I'm wrong and you can leave your cares at your computer, than go free young bird
II'm ugly, stupid, and horribly self absorbed. But he still continues to say it doesn't matter. He hasn't made an attempt to see me but I can see his reason when he told me he got burned before by some woman.
Suspend your beliefs and say, yes. Isn't there a part of you that wants to be attractive, witty, carefree? Pretend you are that person.
Why do you have to go to him? I think he should go to you and stay in a hotel. You feel uneasy because you should feel uneasy, listen to your gut!
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