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Originally Posted by Charlotte Panthers
I've always thought the point of a FWB was to have sex when neither one of you have a partner to do it with. I sort of think it's disrespectful to sleep with someone else while you have a FWB situation. You're opening the FWB up to diseases without their knowledge. (if they dont know you're sleeping with someone else)
Exactly. Seriously, seeing these type of polls and how people think, makes me feel great about keeping sex off the table the first few dates.
My vag is healthy, and I'd like to keep it that way.
I've encountered the opposite of the OP. The men 90% of the time don't want me with anyone else but them, which is a bit silly. As long as you're both safe, this isn't a monogamous relationship.
My policy has become "don't ask, don't tell". But I'll be honest if they ask me directly.We're friends after all.
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by 2mares
I always assumed it was understood that a FWB could be having sex with someone else. I would be ok with it.
No.
That's not what a FWB is. A FWB relationship by definition is one made out of convenience when two people are single (and have usually gone without sex for sometime) and make a pact to have their needs fulfilled exclusively with one another--no strings attached--meaning they can leave the FWB relationship whenever they want. There are no expectations to a long term, committed relationship, only sex, but it is only sex between those two parties.
It's essentially a relationship for the purposes of fulfilling ones sexual appetite without the heavy expectations of a relationship.
But sex is exclusive. Anything besides that is just causal sex with strangers and random drunk people.
That's not what a FWB is. A FWB relationship by definition is one made out of convenience when two people are single (and have usually gone without sex for sometime) and make a pact to have their needs fulfilled exclusively with one another--no strings attached--meaning they can leave the FWB relationship whenever they want. There are no expectations to a long term, committed relationship, only sex, but it is only sex between those two parties.
It's essentially a relationship for the purposes of fulfilling ones sexual appetite without the heavy expectations of a relationship.
But sex is exclusive. Anything besides that is just causal sex with strangers and random drunk people.
And here's where the problem lies. Not everybody subscribes to your definition of FWB, including myself. And in lieu of getting into the semantics of it all, I suspect we'd just have to agree to disagree.
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by ShatteredHope
Im a female and would not be ok with it. However, ive recently realized Im really into my FWB and dont want him to be just a FWB anymore. :/
Which is why it's stupid when females try to do it. I'm sure they're a few females that can successfully detach feelings from sex, but most aren't wired that way and try to have sex thinking it'll lead to something more. But you can't make a man, let alone a person do something or be something they don't want.
Hopefully you'll figure out which female you are and learn from it, I only see sloppy endings to these things though...
I never felt the draw to the FWB relationship thing, specifically because I always viewed it to be an open arrangement wherein the friendship also allowed for a little horizontal sports...
If you want exclusivity, why not hold out for someone you actually want to be with for a long time and love?
Some people are not in a position to successfully hold out; i.e. when one's options are to settle for an exclusive relationship with someone you don't really want, or to agree to a FWB arrangement with a friend you like, some people will choose the FWB.
That's not what a FWB is. A FWB relationship by definition is one made out of convenience when two people are single (and have usually gone without sex for sometime) and make a pact to have their needs fulfilled exclusively with one another--no strings attached--meaning they can leave the FWB relationship whenever they want. There are no expectations to a long term, committed relationship, only sex, but it is only sex between those two parties.
It's essentially a relationship for the purposes of fulfilling ones sexual appetite without the heavy expectations of a relationship.
But sex is exclusive. Anything besides that is just causal sex with strangers and random drunk people.
No, exclusivity is your opinion. There is no single definition. Heck, people argue about whether someone is a FB or FWB because that definition is subjective too. It's entirely possible to have multiple FWBs.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
No, exclusivity is your opinion. There is no single definition. Heck, people argue about whether someone is a FB or FWB because that definition is subjective too. It's entirely possible to have multiple FWBs.
Yeah, never heard of exclusivity attached to this and honestly, I see more of my guy friends get hurt by these things than females do. Women, especially middle age ones, seem to (generally) have zero problems detaching emotion from sex. My lady friends, if anything, have problems doing otherwise (combining sex and emotion) why the guys I know tend to (stupidly) get attached.
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