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Old 03-22-2014, 06:52 AM
 
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This is sort of a reverse take on the oft-discussed premise that "Women like jerks, not nice guys".

Do you think there is any truth here?

Men seem to complain about women in relationships being bossy & emasculating. They may wonder where all the kind, sweet-natured women are. They blame feminism. They say nowadays, women try to act like men (whatever that means).

But are they choosing these naggy/witchy types of women?
Are they subconsciously drawn to them, initially at least?

Meanwhile, more patient, sweet women are not grabbing their attention & are being overlooked in favor of the more aggressive, confident woman who perhaps boosts their egos while dating, but then harps on them when in a relationship. Or something else?

Of course, in the original premise, we discover Nice Guys aren't so nice. We learn there is a false dichotomy.
So what could be going on with the "Sweet Woman" vs. "Witchy Woman" in terms of what men say they want & who they actually date/marry?

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Disclaimer: I'm not stating this as a truth, nor is this necessarily my belief/stance. Just an idea to discuss.
Nah. Most guys like sweet gals.

Of course, there are women who are b@tches and have acidic/snarky personalities who do great with men. If you are physically attractive woman, honestly, it doesn't matter how bad or bat-chit crazy your persona is, you'll be able to find men.

Of course, the sweet personable women who are nice to even the loser men, will get the top guys. In my experience at least, the pretty, successful, prom queen type is usually a pretty nice person and she usually gets the hottest, most successful guy.

For guys, it's similar. Good looking guys can do well even if they are shy and wimpy.

However, in general, men seek femininity and softness and nurturing (motherhood) in a woman and sweetness conveys that.

Women seek strength and protectiveness and being a confident, sometimes arrogant guy projects that.

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Old 03-22-2014, 06:55 AM
 
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A former poster here, Lao, had a bitchy wife. He used that very word. She'd call him a fatass, which he found motivational and arousing. She is very beautiful, of course.
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Old 03-22-2014, 06:57 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I'm not at all attracted to "naggy" women. I am attracted to sweet-dispositioned women who are confident and don't let anyone walk over them, yet are warm and loyal to someone who treats them with love and respect.

Many women (maybe most) are attracted to the "bad boy" types because that's a genetic marker for healthy testosterone levels and good genes overall which will provide their children with advantages in life. Yet, those same women want a more nurturing male for raising those children, as that given them the best chance of survival and success in life. In the end, they usually have to compromise between the best genes and best provider/nurturer.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:00 AM
 
Location: SacTown
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Women, if you're nearing your 40's, still single, been dumped over and over, chances are, you're a bitchy, nagging woman.
I've noticed this...too. It seems a lot of women, when they hit their 30's, a ***** switch is flipped on. I just poor water on those types and watch them melt away.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:19 AM
 
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Meanwhile, more patient, sweet women are not grabbing their attention & are being overlooked in favor of the more aggressive, confident woman who perhaps boosts their egos while dating, but then harps on them when in a relationship. Or something else?
In my experience, the men who end up with women with horrible personalities are usually those who value looks above any other consideration. As long as she's "hot," some guys will put up with almost anything.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:27 AM
 
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In my experience, the men who end up with women with horrible personalities are usually those who value looks above any other consideration. As long as she's "hot," some guys will put up with almost anything.
I think as long as a woman is above average, she can be a total nutcase, fruitcake, and beeotch and she'll still have men. Might not be the best of men though.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:34 AM
 
Location: Midwest
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I've noticed this...too. It seems a lot of women, when they hit their 30's, a ***** switch is flipped on. I just poor water on those types and watch them melt away.
Ah no can't say I agree with this. From what I've seen 20 somethings, who have yet to experiences life, set way high expectations and cry a river when they don't get it. This is from my experience and of course does not apply to all 20s. I've seen more women in their 30s and 40s, who have been through the ringer with a relationship or two being much more laid back, kind and realize that people are people and no body's perfect. Unlike a 20 something that expects a Prince Charming or Christian Gray to sweep her off her feet. I say this because I somewhat thought like his in my late teens early 20s.

Just admit you perfer 20 somethings instead of stating that women who are older fit the b*tchy bill. Cause that's just not the case.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:41 AM
 
Location: SacTown
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Ah no can't say I agree with this. From what I've seen 20 somethings, who have yet to experiences life, set way high expectations and cry a river when they don't get it. This is from my experience and of course does not apply to all 20s. I've seen more women in their 30s and 40s, who have been through the ringer with a relationship or two being much more laid back, kind and realize that people are people and no body's perfect. Unlike a 20 something that expects a Prince Charming or Christian Gray to sweep her off her feet. I say this because I somewhat thought like his in my late teens early 20s.

Just admit you perfer 20 somethings instead of stating that women who are older fit the b*tchy bill. Cause that's just not the case.
I prefer nice girls of all ages, especially 20 something's
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Men value what they have to work for.
Doormats are boring.
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Old 03-22-2014, 07:50 AM
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If that was all true ,prostitutes would stand on the corner yelling at men in passing cars,"leave me the hell alone."
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