Men like Naggy, Witchy Women, not Sweet Women (marriage, cheat, children)

[Laychick]

Originally Posted by erjunkee

Why is that?

No amount of hotness in any woman can overcome the fact that she's a bitchy shrew. So why do men put up with this? What am I missing?

As stupid as this sounds, my childhood male friend once told me that as long as a woman was hot, had a nice body and cooks, he wouldn't mind if she was mean and with a bad personality. Then again, he isn't really a quality man either (is divorced, no kids and has been single for years) and he used to smoke weed long ago if he was depressed.

Bad guys and mean women with nasty personalities in the end don't get a quality person. They end up getting either a desperate person or someone with self-esteem issues.

[JJS99]

I think a lot of men have trouble finding a woman they are physically attracted to who will date them.

So, once they do, especially if they are younger, they will put with some crap.

[arleigh]

Are you equating nice with desperate ,and bitchy with being egotistical snobbish ?
I think many people know how they should act, AND they know the act it takes to get why they think they want.
The problem is that it is an act, not a life style.
When people do this they are setting them selves up for failure, knowing the are living a lie, become frustrated , figure ways to make it seem the other persons fault, or push/ignore them into failure, and bail out .
So many people don't even know them selves but choose to experiment with the lives of others to find them selves ,and never become satisfied with any one ,and still don't know them selves.
This is men and women.
Secondarily , many being brought up in broken homes don't have the example of good parent hood, to have the foundation of building a good home to begin with.
Kids often relive their parents failures, choose their parents escapes .
Some is DNA, some is parental influence , and some external influences.
We make choices which influences fit's our agenda ,but we live in a world of so many, it is no wonder so many are confused.
Life was simpler when there were fewer influences ,but it will never get better until honesty becomes more important than comfort.

[Hivemind31]

Originally Posted by Simtropico

Everyone (men and women) seems to want a Type A who is nice to them but who steps on everyone else. Its part of the culture which teaches us that the streetsmart are more "admirable" than the meek who inevitably wind up being deceived, conned, lied to, stepped on. Who do you rely on when you get into trouble? The girl or the guy who can speak up and defend you as they defend themselves and not come off as criminal or crazy.

You love "your own personal Type A" as she or he brings home the bacon, climbs the ladder, steps over the bodies..........

UNTIL the first fight which is when she or he steps on YOU.

Then you start packing. You call the divorce lawyer. You grab the kids and run out of there.

True?

Absolutely true. Personally, I believe it's "more" true with women, but I see it plenty in men, including myself from time to time.

[BradPiff]

Girls who are mean are more likely to be good looking so they get away with that type of behavior the same way jerks are more likely to be good looking so they get away with it

[Prince_Frog]

Originally Posted by BradPiff

Girls who are mean are more likely to be good looking so they get away with that type of behavior the same way jerks are more likely to be good looking so they get away with it

Yup.

And that's why I never approached really attractive women, since they were more likely to be *******, since I knew they could get away with it and still have men approaching them.

But, as I learned while I was trying to get dates, it wasn't just the super attractive that were ******* too.

[Ashley868]

I think it depends on the guy. I know some that won't put up with that, and if he is with a woman like that it's just for a quick lay. But then there is another guy I know who I used to work with who is in an abusive relationship with just because she is beautiful. He doesn't think he'll ever get another pretty girl like her, so he stays with her even though she hits him. He isn't even allowed to have boys nights anymore with his friends. But he seems to like it because he's been with her for years. If anyone does bring it up that she treats him like crap, he'll respond: "At least I have a hot girlfriend." He's lost a lot of friends. One of his ex friends who is married stopped hanging out with him because I guess he said something like: "At least she's hot unlike you're fat ass wife."

So I think if men are with women like that, it's probably because she's beautiful and so she can get away with it.

[MrRational]

She hates my mama
She hates my daddy too
She loves to tell me
She hates the things I do
She loves to lie beside me
Almost every night
She's no lady she's my wife


Lyle Lovett: She's No Lady - YouTube

[Mikala43]

I don't know where I fall on this. I'm not a nag, my husband gives me no reason to be. Witchy, or same word with a B? Yeah, sometimes. I fall more towards being a hard ass and a challenge. Which is what my husband LIKES about me. When I'm stressed and busy, he says I turn into General Patton.

I once had an ex call me when he broke up with his GF, he said she was just too nice, and it made him miss me. /lol

If anyone who knows me was asked to describe me in 5 different words nice and sweet probably wouldn't make the list. /shrug

I AM nurturing. My husband's happiness is very important to me. I'm domestic, I enjoy a clean, well organized home, and I enjoy cooking.

[freemkt]

Originally Posted by JJS99

I think a lot of men have trouble finding a woman they are physically attracted to who will date them.

So, once they do, especially if they are younger, they will put with some crap.

This is the sort of errant settling up with which I will not put.