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I was having a conversation with a group of people, and of course they were talking about relationships. I didn't contribute as I didn't really have much to say on the topic.
Somehow one of them figured out how inexperienced I am in terms of dating and relationships and bombarded me with questions like: "Why aren't you dating or why haven't you been with anyone yet as old as you are?(20)" I told them I don't really have luck in terms of "love." The last guy I had strong feelings for was when I was 17. It was someone I hadn't even met in person yet, I was naive and was just seeking companionship at the time was just going off the hope that things would be okay once I moved back home. That ended a few months ago. I don't really believe I will really date or fall for anyone else again or at least not any time soon, as there aren't a lot of people who share my views or is on my level of thinking. I'm a very straight forward person and I am extremely honest when it comes to feelings. Also I don't like any and everyone that comes my way. Not that I am picky or anything, that is just how my feelings work. Playing games just leads to emotional pain. This person said I sounded bitter and that with my attitude I won't ever find happiness.
I honestly think there is nothing wrong with my views, and that person was just trying to make me feel bad. I have no hatred or anger towards anyone or anything when love comes up. I just have my own personal views for myself based on my own experience with it. I am not really looking for anyone at the moment, I just don't believe it'll happen any time soon. I just happen come across these types of people a lot and I don't really see where they are coming from.
I was having a conversation with a group of people, and of course they were talking about relationships. I didn't contribute as I didn't really have much to say on the topic.
Somehow one of them figured out how inexperienced I am in terms of dating and relationships and bombarded me with questions like: "Why aren't you dating or why haven't you been with anyone yet as old as you are?(20)" I told them I don't really have luck in terms of "love." The last guy I had strong feelings for was when I was 17. It was someone I hadn't even met in person yet, I was naive and was just seeking companionship at the time was just going off the hope that things would be okay once I moved back home. That ended a few months ago. I don't really believe I will really date or fall for anyone else again or at least not any time soon, as there aren't a lot of people who share my views or is on my level of thinking. I'm a very straight forward person and I am extremely honest when it comes to feelings. Also I don't like any and everyone that comes my way. Not that I am picky or anything, that is just how my feelings work. Playing games just leads to emotional pain. This person said I sounded bitter and that with my attitude I won't ever find happiness.
I honestly think there is nothing wrong with my views, and that person was just trying to make me feel bad. I have no hatred or anger towards anyone or anything when love comes up. I just have my own personal views for myself based on my own experience with it. I am not really looking for anyone at the moment, I just don't believe it'll happen any time soon. I just happen come across these types of people a lot and I don't really see where they are coming from.
I don't see anything bitter or jaded here. It's not easy to find someone you click with. That's all you're saying. It's normal. That guy who bombarded you with aggressive personal questions was a jerk. Hang out with people who understand you and are kind and thoughtful. Blow hostile people off, and don't take what they say personally. You'll be happier that way. They're the ones with issues, not you.
This person said I sounded bitter and that with my attitude I won't ever find happiness.
And why do you give one damn what someone else says about you or your feelings? You care enough to post a lengthy treatise here. Instead of worrying if you are bitter or jaded, examine why some Bozo's opinion matters to you. Seriously.
Did I understand the facts right? You are now 20 years old and have had some sort of LDR with a man since you were 17 that you never met and it just ended? I wouldn't say you are bitter; I'd guess you are afraid of the real thing. Why would a 17 yr old spend that kind of time with a man she never even met?
I don't really believe I will really date or fall for anyone else again or at least not any time soon, as there aren't a lot of people who share my views or is on my level of thinking.
Hmmmmmmmmm...this is the crux of the problem. What are your views and what is your level of thinking that no one shares? This part sounds a tad bit delusional and delusion can lead to being bitter or jaded.
I was having a conversation with a group of people, and of course they were talking about relationships. I didn't contribute as I didn't really have much to say on the topic.
Somehow one of them figured out how inexperienced I am in terms of dating and relationships and bombarded me with questions like: "Why aren't you dating or why haven't you been with anyone yet as old as you are?(20)" I told them I don't really have luck in terms of "love." The last guy I had strong feelings for was when I was 17. It was someone I hadn't even met in person yet, I was naive and was just seeking companionship at the time was just going off the hope that things would be okay once I moved back home. That ended a few months ago. I don't really believe I will really date or fall for anyone else again or at least not any time soon, as there aren't a lot of people who share my views or is on my level of thinking. I'm a very straight forward person and I am extremely honest when it comes to feelings. Also I don't like any and everyone that comes my way. Not that I am picky or anything, that is just how my feelings work. Playing games just leads to emotional pain. This person said I sounded bitter and that with my attitude I won't ever find happiness.
I honestly think there is nothing wrong with my views, and that person was just trying to make me feel bad. I have no hatred or anger towards anyone or anything when love comes up. I just have my own personal views for myself based on my own experience with it. I am not really looking for anyone at the moment, I just don't believe it'll happen any time soon. I just happen come across these types of people a lot and I don't really see where they are coming from.
Maybe that person was self-projecting.
You sound like you have a very level headed view on dating.
Perhaps that person is so bitter because you have what they don't? A clear mind.
That person sounds jaded and bitter. And, just bc you are not jumping for joy over a guy doesn't mean you are bitter. Meh
I would have not responded to his question. You should have said you don't speak about your personal relationships in that type of an open environment, or something along those lines and be done with it. Your private life is not open to the public and not anybody's business, I wouldn't have given them anything to feed on. You are still very young and your views about life and love will most likely change as you grow and mature along the way. Eventually you will find the person you like and want to be with.
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