Late night calls from another woman to boyfriends phone (dating, girlfriend, single)
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I know I should talk to him about it but I haven't worked up the nerve.
Saturday my boyfriend went and played golf with a buddy. My boyfriend and I met up at a local bar (his buddy dropped him off since he couldn't drive) afterwards, around 9pm and had a couple drinks (okay, I had one, he had three) and I drove us home and we cuddled and watched tv. We went to bed around 1. Fun times.
My issue is that at about 2:45 his phone started ringing. It woke me up and I went to the kitchen. It was a girl's name on the caller ID, who I'd never heard of before. I frowned, and hit "ignore" just to get the phone to stop ringing. He has many female (and male) friends. He's 35, and a former big partier up until his late 20's, and still has plenty of residual popularity, so a random drunk dial or text here and there doesn't bother me too much.
What does bother me is that she called right back 3 minutes later. I frowned again and silenced the phone.
Two minutes later it started vibrating. Same chick. What the heck???
I answered "hello?" trying not to wake him, since he was out cold and exhausted from golf.
She hung up immediately.
Five minutes later, a fourth call. I answered again. She hung up immediately.
Then he started getting a barrage of texts--I couldn't read them since his phone was locked.
10 minutes later, another freakin' call.
Dude, it's 3 in the morning on Saturday night.
I texted her from my own phone (his old-school phone displays both the name and number, and I quickly memorized it). I asked if everything was okay and got "who is this?"
I said "this is -----'s girlfriend. His phone keeps ringing and it woke me up. I can wake him if it's an emergency--he's dead asleep."
She said "oh. I'm sorry to have woken you. I hope your happy."
and that was it.
the next day it kept killing me so i texted her again saying i hoped i hadn't offended her. she said "you didn't."
and that was it. I mean, I'm clearly fishing for something reassuring--who wouldn't be?
I said "----'s never mentioned you before, have you been friends long?"
she said "we've been friends for about 6 years" (he and i have been dating for a little over 2)
i said "oh sweet! we should all hang out some time soon!"
She said "actually I don't live in FL anymore."
So....she doesn't live in our state. That's pretty non threatening, right?
But then why is she blowing up his phone at 3am? If it were a single call, it wouldn't bother me. It's the fact that she kept calling and calling.
Why is this bothering me so much and what would you think if it were you?
Also, if you were drunk dialing most people wouldn't just hang up right away--they'd speak to whoever answered, or ask to speak to who they were trying to call.
Your bf sounds similar to me. He probably never mentioned her because she's not in state anymore, especially if she went out of state before you and your bf met. There wouldn't really be a reason to mention her. I have a good female friend that lives out of the country and probably wouldn't mention her to anyone new that I have met because there wouldn't be a point.
Oh so the next day when you texted her again you were still confirming there wasn't an emergency?
Point.
I had mentioned to him yesterday that "your phone was blowing up last night someone kept calling you over and over" and all he did was mutter "no..it was on silent this morning" as if I must have been hearing things. Had he simply shrugged adn said "oh that was my friend amy drunk dialing--she moved out of state recently and hasn't made any new friends" i would have felt some releif.
By then my curiosity had simply been peaked as to why a girl I'd never heard of was calling my boyfriend repeatedly at 3am. I drink on ocassion, I worked nights up until a couple months ago, and I can't think of any male other than my boyfriend that I'd call that late at night.
I had mentioned to him yesterday that "your phone was blowing up last night someone kept calling you over and over" and all he did was mutter "no..it was on silent this morning" as if I must have been hearing things. Had he simply shrugged adn said "oh that was my friend amy drunk dialing--she moved out of state recently and hasn't made any new friends" i would have felt some releif.
By then my curiosity had simply been peaked as to why a girl I'd never heard of was calling my boyfriend repeatedly at 3am. I drink on ocassion, I worked nights up until a couple months ago, and I can't think of any male other than my boyfriend that I'd call that late at night.
He denied he got calls and texts?
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