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Old 03-25-2014, 06:00 AM
 
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The phrase, "I love you" is over used with many couples. If you have to say it all the time, you likely don't really mean it or you say it to be excused for bad behavior in your marriage. The people who really bug me insist on ending every phone call with the statement, "I love you."

I know for a fact that some of my relatives and friends have terrible marriages, but they are saying, "I love you" to their spouse all the time.

Talk is cheap, actions are not!
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:03 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Okay then. Have you mentioned to your relatives that you find their pleasantries to one another to be false and irritating?

You wouldn't happen to travel on weekends, would you?
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:17 AM
 
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I can't remember the last time I heard a friend or relative talking to their spouse on the phone. Probably because a) It's not a common occurrence and b) I don't eavesdrop.

Are you sure these people with supposedly terrible marriages are saying "I love you" to their spouses every time they speak on the phone? Or is this something you witnessed once or twice and have let it overblow in your mind so that now it happens "every phone call" and "all the time"?

I suppose it is a way of feeling artificially superior to others as well.
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:22 AM
 
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There are those times when my husband and I are having a disagreement and I always tell him "I love you" which I do very much love him but I also tell him at the same time, "I just don't like you very much right now".
He understands, he has said the same to me and it's okay because it is the truth.
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:36 AM
 
Location: NC
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Please tell me how you judge a terrible marriage. Also how did that group job interview go?
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:44 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Its better than saying "Go to hell!, I'll see you when I get home"
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Old 03-25-2014, 06:48 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Mind your own business.
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Old 03-25-2014, 07:09 AM
 
Location: Philippines
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I think they're just trying out something romantic to spice up the relationship and also fix their marriage. You can't really judge their relationship coz you don't really know what's going on with them. You only see the portion of it. anyway, because they're your relatives, you just have to learn to deal with it.
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Old 03-25-2014, 07:16 AM
 
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There are those times when my husband and I are having a disagreement and I always tell him "I love you" which I do very much love him but I also tell him at the same time, "I just don't like you very much right now".
He understands, he has said the same to me and it's okay because it is the truth.

My hubby and I do this also. No matter how mad we get (or what we say to each other), it helps to remind them (and ourselves!!) that the love is there.
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Old 03-25-2014, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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Man, it must be nice to be you and have a life so perfect that this would be the one thing knawing at you. Who cares what others say? Why do you care? What exactly do you expect them to say?
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