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Ok.. So I posted something the other day about the guy I'm talking to. We've been talking for 3 months and have not had 'sex', though he did preform oral sex. Yes I know oral sex is sex but it's not the same as you know, .. Sex.
Anyway, Sunday night I spoke to him and I kind of brought up the issue and his response was...He takes sex with me very seriously. He said he's not the hit it and quit it type and doesn't want to jeopardize anything. I've never have someone say this to me.. I've dated complete jerks in the past and I've cut of dudes who tried sleeping with me so soon.
Anyway, men, if you said this to a womN, could it be because you respect her and really truly see a future with her. ( I'm hoping that's what it is) or, can it be that you are not sure about your future with her.
Here's the thing Imagirl....you either trust someone you care about, or you don't.
BUT - trust does have to be earned.
So you don't want to just give away all your trust based on things people tell you.
3 months is a not a lot of time in which to really know someone.
So, slow down, give him the benefit of the doubt that he is telling you the truth, then sit back and watch how things unfold.
He's either very sincere and sees you as long term GF material OR he's not so sure how he feels about you yet but doesn't want to lose you until he is sure.
By spending more time together and closely observing whether or not his words and actions match up in other areas of his life, you will be able to determine what is going on here.
Ok.. So I posted something the other day about the guy I'm talking to. We've been talking for 3 months and have not had 'sex', though he did preform oral sex. Yes I know oral sex is sex but it's not the same as you know, .. Sex.
Anyway, Sunday night I spoke to him and I kind of brought up the issue and his response was...He takes sex with me very seriously. He said he's not the hit it and quit it type and doesn't want to jeopardize anything. I've never have someone say this to me.. I've dated complete jerks in the past and I've cut of dudes who tried sleeping with me so soon.
Anyway, men, if you said this to a womN, could it be because you respect her and really truly see a future with her. ( I'm hoping that's what it is) or, can it be that you are not sure about your future with her.
Talking to? You've been talking for three months?
Have you been on any actual dates? Are you seeing each other regularly? Are you a couple?
Yes, we've been on actual dates, spend time together but we haven't had an exclusivity talk or anything indicating we are an established couple.
Hmmm. Three months and he still doesn't know if he wants to be exclusive? Something is amiss. I wonder if he's dating other people.
By the three-month mark, every man I've ever had a relationship with has sealed the deal with exclusivity and locked it down in the bedroom. Most of them also declared their love by that point, too. That may sound fast to some, but my experience has been that most people who know what they want also know when it's right there in front of them.
If you can be patient, that's great, but I'd have written him off as non-operative after about six weeks.
Hmmm. Three months and he still doesn't know if he wants to be exclusive? Something is amiss.
By the three-month mark, every man I've ever had a relationship with has sealed the deal with exclusivity and locked it down in the bedroom. Most of them also declared their love by that point, too. That may sound fast to some, but my experience has been that most people who know what they want also know when it's right there in front of them.
If you can be patient, that's great, but I'd have written him off as non-operative after about six weeks.
Yea, every man prior to that for me as well, knew by then... But where are those relationships? ...... Exactly!
It's is early and he is very marriage minded so he may be different than most guys that want to seal the deal ASAP.
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