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Most people assume men do this to women, but anyone ever experience(or see) women doing it to men? I'm currently going through this and it's quite uncomfortable. The girl has to be around my age(I'm 23) and the staring is ridiculous. What's even worse is she grills my friends when they talk to me, especially my female friends. I'm not talking a quick glance, but rather full out grilling. It's at the point where other people are noticing and are coming up to me like "What's going on?" And I can't even give them an answer.
I've known the family since I've been in the country and they're nice people. But the staring is also at the point where it doesn't affect just me anymore. One of my friends got grilled with her parents 5 feet away and her mom wanted to rip the girl to shreds. I don't want to embarrass the girl, but I've had enough and my friends aren't liking it either. The only other option would be to go to her father and let him know what's going on. Because at this rate, someone is going to get pissed off and it's not going to be pretty.
So basically, is the better option to go to her father where I'd likely be calm, or just confront her instead?
Most people assume men do this to women, but anyone ever experience(or see) women doing it to men? I'm currently going through this and it's quite uncomfortable. The girl has to be around my age(I'm 23) and the staring is ridiculous. What's even worse is she grills my friends when they talk to me, especially my female friends. I'm not talking a quick glance, but rather full out grilling. It's at the point where other people are noticing and are coming up to me like "What's going on?" And I can't even give them an answer.
I've known the family since I've been in the country and they're nice people. But the staring is also at the point where it doesn't affect just me anymore. One of my friends got grilled with her parents 5 feet away and her mom wanted to rip the girl to shreds. I don't want to embarrass the girl, but I've had enough and my friends aren't liking it either. The only other option would be to go to her father and let him know what's going on. Because at this rate, someone is going to get pissed off and it's not going to be pretty.
So basically, is the better option to go to her father where I'd likely be calm, or just confront her instead?
Your relationship is between the two of you. If you have an issue with her, talk to her about it. Do not involve her father.
What do you mean by "grilling"? She's interrogating women who talk to you? About what?
Why can't you tell her to back off, quit staring, go away? That you're not interested? With your dramatic phrases--"rip her to shreds," "grilling," "it's not going to be pretty"--it sounds like you might enjoy all the attention. If you truly don't, tell her to cut it out. You're both in your 20s. No need to involve Mom or Dad.
What do you mean by "grilling"? She's interrogating women who talk to you? About what?
Why can't you tell her to back off, quit staring, go away? That you're not interested? With your dramatic phrases--"rip her to shreds," "grilling," "it's not going to be pretty"--it sounds like you might enjoy all the attention. If you truly don't, tell her to cut it out. You're both in your 20s. No need to involve Mom or Dad.
She's giving dirty looks to anyone I talk to, especially my friends. If I confront her, I'm likely not going to be so calm. I've already tried ignoring her.
There's no relationship. I've never had a conversation with her. But her dad may want to know before someone gets pissed off.
Maybe this is a "cultural" thing, but I am at a loss as to understanding the drama here.
The young lady in question sounds as though she may be mentally impaired in some way. If that is true, then you kindly ignore her and advise others to do the same.
If she is "normal" then you simply ask her to stop making folks uncomfortable with her questions about you. Then walk away.
This does not have to be a big deal unless you want it to be. Just don't feed the drama.
Maybe this is a "cultural" thing, but I am at a loss as to understanding the drama here.
The young lady in question sounds as though she may be mentally impaired in some way. If that is true, then you kindly ignore her and advise others to do the same.
If she is "normal" then you simply ask her to stop making folks uncomfortable with her questions about you. Then walk away.
This does not have to be a big deal unless you want it to be. Just don't feed the drama.
She's not at all mentally impaired. Point being is it's rude to stare at people, my friends are getting dirty looks, other people are noticing, and it's not right. And she hasn't said a word either. There hasn't been any questions asked.
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