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Should a man help out a women they are dating financially if they ask them to help pay there cell phone bill. The women I am dating ask me if I would pay her cell phone bill. I don't want to help pay for no women's bills can any one help me out with this should I help to keep the relationship going or bail out, because I feel if I do this she will ask again for me to help her.
LOL. My husband told me that's a common practice in certain communities. The women pretty much expect the men they are seeing to pay one or more of their bills. And the men do it, I guess because they are having sex with them.
It's kind of trashy. Don't do it.
Find a woman with a college education and a job. Tell your girlfriend you want a woman who can take care of herself.
Should a man help out a women they are dating financially if they ask them to help pay there cell phone bill. The women I am dating ask me if I would pay her cell phone bill. I don't want to help pay for no women's bills can any one help me out with this should I help to keep the relationship going or bail out, because I feel if I do this she will ask again for me to help her.
Well, I was dating a college woman with a job who had a financial catastrophe--her transmission died. I helped her out with it.
We wound up getting married and will celebrate our 31st anniversary this year. She told me only a few years ago that picking up the tab for her transmission was the first time a man had ever done anything for her that wasn't quid pro quo.
I would see if she is willing to change her spending habits in exchange for a one time or very infrequent assistance. If she is not willing to change and you want to stay in the relationship, it won't be about love, but need and she will take everything she can get from you.
And when you can no longer afford to pay all her bills?
No, don't pay her cell phone bill. It's one thing to help out someone you have been dating a while in an emergency, but wanting to have a cell phone is not an emergency. It's a luxury. If she can't afford it, it's not the end of the world. And if you pay it now you're setting yourself up to pay more in the future.
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As one who works in finance, absolutely not. Really it is best not to combine bills and finances unless you are married. Way too much potential for drama.
Don't start anything you not willing to hold out with. Today it's the cell phone, tomorrow it's something else. You will go broke trying to take care of your bills and hers. Now if you can see yourself marrying this girl, then maybe help her out every now and then.
I would have no problems helping out my girlfriend in a jam or an emergency. At the same time if I see that she is not trying to help herself I am really not interested in being anyone's sugar daddy.
There is no "should." If you want to, then do it, if you don't, then don't. You said you don't want to pay a woman's bills, cellphone in this case, then don't. Problem solved.
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