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My boyfriend and I have been together a total of almost two years. He's 30 I'm 27. Last year we were broken up for two months before we got back together. In that time he met another girl, hooked up with her and even traveled with her (2-3 days trips). When we were getting back together he broke things off with that girl and he told me that he loves me and that he never had feelings for her, that he just liked spending time with her. Although we were broken up and he didn't actually cheat it hurt a lot that he met somebody else so quickly and even traveled with her.
Yesterday he was showing me some pics on his computer and I saw that there was an album with a trip he did when we were broken up. I didnt know that he actually did that trip with her, last year he told me he went alone. So I asked him to show me the pics because I just wanted to see pics of his trip, not because I expected he went with her. First he hesitated, so I knew what was going on and asked him if he went with her. He said yes and said he didnt tell me because he didnt want to hurt me. I asked him to at least delete the pictures that girl is in too (there were pics of them hugging and pics with only her). He said he doesnt wanna delete them because 'those are pics of a trip'. I told him it hurts me if he keeps them. He said he is not going to delete them and the discussion was over.
I didnt raise my voice or anything, I told hom in a normal tone. And I didnt ask him to delete pics of the trip, just of her. And he refuses to do so. Am I overreacting or am I right?
Not your place to ask him to delete his photos. He did nothing wrong, they are part of the trip whether you like it or not. If you cannot handle his past you need to move on and quit wasting his time.
I think if he loves you then he'll respect that there shouldn't be pictures of him during a fling with another woman. End of story, imo. Very disrespectful.
I think if he loves you then he'll respect that there shouldn't be pictures of him during a fling with another woman. End of story, imo. Very disrespectful.
So if your husband was married before he should delete all of the old photos of him and his ex wife just because you want him to? Is he supposed to pretend the marriage never happened? It is not disrespectful, he did nothing wrong, they were not together and he met someone else and took a few day trips, big deal. People meet all the time and take trips together whether it turns into long term or not.
I think you overreacted a bit (understandable) but its not like he had those pics as a screen saver, in social media, or framed out in the open.
A bit? I'd say she overreacted in a huge way.
OP, you were not part of his life at the time. He probably has other photos of himself with other women he dated before you. He shouldn't have to delete photos of memories from his life because you are insecure and jealous. Keep behaving like that, and he'll also have photos of himself with women he dates AFTER you, too.
Some file on his computer that I'd bet he never looks at...You're overreacting.
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