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I'm 29 years old, gay and have been single all my life. I have met hundreds of guys throughout my adult life so far and have never really found anyone that I could picture myself loving and being with for the long term.
But now, I met someone who I really think is a great match (based on one date so far), but there's a problem. He lives a 1 hr and 20 min drive from me and the round trip drive consists of $16.75 in tolls. There is a toll free route, but it adds 30 minutes to the trip each way. This is the NYC region, of course.
So what should I do? He said that I'm "worth making the trip for" and is willing to visit me, too. I live in Norwalk, CT and he lives in West Babylon, NY, which is on Long Island.
Another caveat is that I hate this NYC area and was hoping to find a new job and relocate out of the area this summer.
I'm 29 years old, gay and have been single all my life. I have met hundreds of guys throughout my adult life so far and have never really found anyone that I could picture myself loving and being with for the long term.
But now, I met someone who I really think is a great match (based on one date so far), but there's a problem. He lives a 1 hr and 20 min drive from me and the round trip drive consists of $16.75 in tolls. There is a toll free route, but it adds 30 minutes to the trip each way. This is the NYC region, of course.
So what should I do? He said that I'm "worth making the trip for" and is willing to visit me, too. I live in Norwalk, CT and he lives in West Babylon, NY, which is on Long Island.
Another caveat is that I hate this NYC area and was hoping to find a new job and relocate out of the area this summer.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
I would cease all whining about the perceived "problems" and be willing to swim thru crocodile infested waters to reach the man I knew was the one for me.
My whole relationship to my husband has been long - distance for the most part. In the 7 years we have been together, we have only lived under the same roof for 8 MONTHS. And out of those 7 years, a total of 21 months he was in the Middle East getting shot at. Thank God he gets out of the military very soon.
Trust me. It's not that bad. I think you can manage.
If you really care for someone special usually you'll do most anything to see them. You said you were moving this summer. Maybe he can move as well and you can live a lot closer to each other.
I'm 29 years old, gay and have been single all my life. I have met hundreds of guys throughout my adult life so far and have never really found anyone that I could picture myself loving and being with for the long term.
But now, I met someone who I really think is a great match (based on one date so far), but there's a problem. He lives a 1 hr and 20 min drive from me and the round trip drive consists of $16.75 in tolls. There is a toll free route, but it adds 30 minutes to the trip each way. This is the NYC region, of course.
So what should I do? He said that I'm "worth making the trip for" and is willing to visit me, too. I live in Norwalk, CT and he lives in West Babylon, NY, which is on Long Island.
Another caveat is that I hate this NYC area and was hoping to find a new job and relocate out of the area this summer.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
I'm in a LDR and I would be very happy if she was only 1 hour and 20 minutes, or even 2 hours away away.
Heck, I'd be happy if she was a 4 or 5 hour drive from where I live!
If you feel the need to come on here to complain about something so petty perhaps he's really not worth your time.
Skip the tolls. It's not worth the expense, especially since you can't afford it. Be happy you found someone compatable. Many people don't.
Why don't you give the relationship some time, like a year, before you decide he's the one (or not the one) and get all in a twist by a very short distance by LDR standards?
One date? Really?
And if things go well, perhaps the two of you can figure out better living arrangements.
I'm 29 years old, gay and have been single all my life. I have met hundreds of guys throughout my adult life so far and have never really found anyone that I could picture myself loving and being with for the long term.
But now, I met someone who I really think is a great match (based on one date so far), but there's a problem. He lives a 1 hr and 20 min drive from me and the round trip drive consists of $16.75 in tolls. There is a toll free route, but it adds 30 minutes to the trip each way. This is the NYC region, of course.
So what should I do? He said that I'm "worth making the trip for" and is willing to visit me, too. I live in Norwalk, CT and he lives in West Babylon, NY, which is on Long Island.
Another caveat is that I hate this NYC area and was hoping to find a new job and relocate out of the area this summer.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Not sure if long distance relationship really works. But since you consider him as a great match, you need to take some risks.
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It's one date. Chill out a little.
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