Why Are You Single???? (guys, separate, kids, sex)
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Because I want to be. Didn't like marriage, don't particularly miss being in a relationship, don't see myself dating any time soon. Too many other things on my plate. Check back in a year. Thank you, drive through.
It's impossible to find that guy because that guy would have been snatched by a woman 10 years earlier.
You are essentially asking for a 9/10 who isn't married.
Unless you are 9/10 looks, excellent job, holds a conversation....how do you ask for that 9/10 guy?
I think the point is he was in a marriage that 10-years earlier and because he was a good man, he didn't cheat on his wife. But maybe they split up for some reason (or maybe his wife died). A lot of men (and women too) take time off after a divorce or death of a loved one to heal... especially if they were the ones abandoned, cheated on, etc. It takes time to work though all that as it deals a blow to your self esteem and to mourn.
After they heal, then they get back out there. Like I said, I've met at least two men like that (although it was in what seemed like a sea of "not good ones"). With the first one we just didn't click with each other and the second one I dated for a while but he just wasn't as into me as I was into him (he's actually been single for 8 years until I started dating him and is back to being single again).
Because after three failed marriages I learned my lesson? I'm good on my own, enjoy my own company and have been single for three decades now. I don't feel I'm missing anything, and I certainly don't feel "unloved" at all. My social life as is as much as I want it to be, I'm blessed with dear friends near and far and there's nobody around to look at me sideways when I fart.
That seems to be the general consensus in our matrimonial society. There are a lot of reasons I'm single, some of them good, some of them bad, some of them just my own quirks. The good reasons I'm single; I can handle my own company, I have a lot of hobbies, I'm too busy for a relationship, I don't take anything from anyone, etc. The bad reasons are that I prefer my own company, I can't stand most people, I can barely stand myself, I get fixated on something I'm interested in and don't know when to stop (thank goodness that doesn't include people).
Ha! I'm single because I am a "character." Other "characters" seem to have married early and sometimes to the wrong person. Ouch!
The rest of the world calls us "weirdos." I don't think making oatmeal and scrambling an egg in the same frying pan is weird! It saves dishes. I also don't think having a discussion with my cat about what foreign leaders are having for breakfast is weird, either. She listens well and even meows in the right places.
But I guess lots of men in their 50s think that's weird.
Because after three failed marriages I learned my lesson? I'm good on my own, enjoy my own company and have been single for three decades now. I don't feel I'm missing anything, and I certainly don't feel "unloved" at all. My social life as is as much as I want it to be, I'm blessed with dear friends near and far and there's nobody around to look at me sideways when I fart.
Today at office we had a discussion between a couple singles and a couple people who are in relationships.
The question was basically: Why are you single?
Most singles answered: Because the good men/women are already taken.
Following that logic, if you're not taken, doesn't that mean that you're not a good man/woman?
Why do you think so many people are single? And what are your reasons?
Real question would be why are so many people "in committed relationships" while hiding that they have an occasional fling on the side or things like that. Or why are they in a "happy relationship" which they know it isn't really happy and often say so to the others when the other party isn't around, or they even lie that they are in a happy relationship.
The same question can be applied regardless of the relationship status.
I'd say the key thing is "transparency". People cannot know whom they are with, only whom the other person presents to be. Pay note that if someone seems to be a good person for 20 years, then they simply are a good person, nobody fakes two decades so easily. Transparency is the key for any relationship and that's something that most people lack - because they want to have their cake and eat it too, as people say on this forum.
To apply the same logic to single folks, I'd say that single people should be "transparent" to themselves and that's what matters the most.
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