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I am having the same off topic discussion in two threads, so I figured I would just start a new one about the sub topic.
In the other threads, I talk about how I will approach a man, smile, flirt, engage in conversation, etc... but I won't ask his number (or other contact information). I leave that to him.
My outlook on it is most men I've met are very nice and friendly. They don't say "go away" if they aren't interested in me. They stay polite and chit chat. So the only way I have to know if a man is interested or not in me is whether or not he meets me halfway and takes that step and asks me my number.
The way I see it, if a man is not at all interested in me or on the fence and doesn't think I am worth 'the risk', then he's not going to ask. But if a man is really interested in me, finds me attractive, he's not going to just let me walk away without trying.
Now, the conversation in the other threads are that I should also ask for his number because a man won't ask (even if I did make the approach and even if he is interested). That seems counter-intuitive to me, but who knows, I could be wrong.
So tell me, if it were you and a woman walked up to you, smiled, flirted and initiated a conversation with you and showed interest in you; and you in turn found her to be attractive and you were interested in her, would you ask for her number?
EDIT: Sorry, typo in the poll question AND it got cut off. And I can't seem to edit/fix it. And a typo in the subject line. Ugh. Time for afternoon tea! Hopefully you get the idea.
Sure. However, women should ask as well (if they're really interested) if they sense hesitation from the man; because some men just don't have the courage.
I am having the same off topic discussion in two threads, so I figured I would just start a new one about the sub topic.
In the other threads, I talk about how I will approach a man, smile, flirt, engage in conversation, etc... but I won't ask his number (or other contact information). I leave that to him.
My outlook on it is most men I've met are very nice and friendly. They don't say "go away" if they aren't interested in me. They stay polite and chit chat. So the only way I have to know if a man is interested or not in me is whether or not he meets me halfway and takes that step and asks me my number.
The way I see it, if a man is not at all interested in me or on the fence and doesn't think I am worth 'the risk', then he's not going to ask. But if a man is really interested in me, finds me attractive, he's not going to just let me walk away without trying.
Now, the conversation in the other threads are that I should also ask for his number because a man won't ask (even if I did make the approach and even if he is interested). That seems counter-intuitive to me, but who knows, I could be wrong.
So tell me, if it were you and a woman walked up to you, smiled, flirted and initiated a conversation with you and showed interest in you; and you in turn found her to be attractive and you were interested in her, would you ask for her number?
Yes no maybe so
I talk to women all the time, and majority of the time when I'm out I am not thinking about asking anyone out or dating. I'm usually focused on buying what I need or getting to the golf course. I always enjoy talking to people, but asking someone out on a date just really isn't on my mind. Not that I'd be nervous or feel awkward at all. Very rarely will I ask a girl for her number if I have a nice conversation with her, unless I feel like I'm bored that day or haven't gone out on a date in a while.
I don't know if most guys are like me or not, but in this situation I think a decent gesture would be to offer the guy your phone number. This doesn't make you come off as overly pushy, and it won't give him an impression that you're easy because you're still making him take the initiative to call you. However, I wouldn't ask for his phone number.
I just went to a fitness class and the instructor approached me afterwards asking if I've done it before. Then we had a small talk. Does that mean she is interested?
Nope. Am I going to ask for her number. Definitely not.
She was 45 and I am 25.
I attended contractors meet and greet and everyone introduced themselves including the few women. Am I to assume they are interested simply because they talked to me and everyone else there?
Am I going to ask for her number? Definitely not.
lol just because a woman talks to you doesn't mean she is interested.
Two good answers so far... not what I expected, but I am glad I asked because I (and a couple of other women) were arguing that if a man is really interested, he'll ask. Keep um coming! And now time to get that tea so I can wake up and "spell more better"
Two good answers so far... not what I expected, but I am glad I asked because I (and a couple of other women) were arguing that if a man is really interested, he'll ask. Keep um coming! And now time to get that tea so I can wake up and "spell more better"
If you're really against offering your number to a guy and you really want him to ask you. Your best bet is to get the conversation about you two doing something together.
Two good answers so far... not what I expected, but I am glad I asked because I (and a couple of other women) were arguing that if a man is really interested, he'll ask. Keep um coming! And now time to get that tea so I can wake up and "spell more better"
Well, it also depends on what reason she approached. And even if I would love to ask, I may hesitate considering that some women get offended if you just dive right in and request that kind of personal contact information.
I would wait a bit and let her ask for my contact information. She was comfortable enough to initiate and she might appreciate having a few minutes to let that sort of happen naturally. If I was interested in her and she didn't ask, then I would ask before we went our separate ways.
I am having the same off topic discussion in two threads, so I figured I would just start a new one about the sub topic.
In the other threads, I talk about how I will approach a man, smile, flirt, engage in conversation, etc... but I won't ask his number (or other contact information). I leave that to him.
My outlook on it is most men I've met are very nice and friendly. They don't say "go away" if they aren't interested in me. They stay polite and chit chat. So the only way I have to know if a man is interested or not in me is whether or not he meets me halfway and takes that step and asks me my number.
The way I see it, if a man is not at all interested in me or on the fence and doesn't think I am worth 'the risk', then he's not going to ask. But if a man is really interested in me, finds me attractive, he's not going to just let me walk away without trying.
Now, the conversation in the other threads are that I should also ask for his number because a man won't ask (even if I did make the approach and even if he is interested). That seems counter-intuitive to me, but who knows, I could be wrong.
So tell me, if it were you and a woman walked up to you, smiled, flirted and initiated a conversation with you and showed interest in you; and you in turn found her to be attractive and you were interested in her, would you ask for her number?
EDIT: Sorry, typo in the poll question AND it got cut off. And I can't seem to edit/fix it. And a typo in the subject line. Ugh. Time for afternoon tea! Hopefully you get the idea.
I could ask her for her number. But who knows if it is real or not. A woman could talk to me but that doesn't mean she likes me.
I could ask her for her number. But who knows if it is real or not. A woman could talk to me but that doesn't mean she likes me.
Exactly. The women here on the board thinks that if she talks to a guy, she basically approached him.
Well, I must have approached 10 cashiers, 10 fitness instructors, 15 sales people, 50 coworkers, 20 friends, and like 30 strangers this month.
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Hopefully you get the idea.
