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My Dw's cervix was always sensitive, banging it around gives her a lot of pain.
Even when we were dating she was very low drive, borderline asexual.
At 25 she was pregnant when she suffered a spinal injury with two slipped discs and some nerve damage. That nerve damage seems to have triggered early menopause and general atrophy of her genitals. From that point on, all the inner flesh of her labia and the interior is all dry, tight and easily torn. No quantity of artificial lube will allow that flesh to be stretched or manipulated.
During her pregnancy, the baby grew okay, but her body refused to react to the hormones that would allow her cervix to open for the birth. At the hospital, they tried drugs to force her birthcanal to open, but even after 2 days of induced contractions, it refused to open. So they did a C-section.
After that sex was mostly not allowed. We made attempts once a year, but it always resulted in immediate pain for her.
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wow holy cow I'm impressed you were able to make it through it. I consider myself a relatively strong willed person and think this would test even the solidest (a word?) of marriages.
If you don't mind me asking was your wife ok with you talking on the subject of masturbation? Did she understand you still had needs and would try to develop a solution without violating the fidelity of marriage?
Wow - are there women out there who don't know that men (married or not, and women too) masturbate all the time? This IS 2018 after all. And I don't want to speak for Submariner, but just because she could not have PIV sex doesn't mean she did not also masturbate.
wow holy cow I'm impressed you were able to make it through it. I consider myself a relatively strong willed person and think this would test even the solidest (a word?) of marriages.
If you don't mind me asking was your wife ok with you talking on the subject of masturbation?
No she is not very comfortable with that topic.
Among our friends, and even when she is just among her friends she is uncomfortable if anyone discusses anything about sex.
She knows that it exists, but she would rather not be in the conversation.
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... Did she understand you still had needs and would try to develop a solution without violating the fidelity of marriage?
She does not understand why anyone has sexual 'needs' or drive.
When we were dating she tried to tell me once that she did not have any need for a man to be in her life. What I heard was that she was independent and did not feel a need to have a husband. I was in a career field that required that I deploy underwater for 7 months a year. I saw that we had an extremely high divorce rate. So I was focusing on finding a wife that would not desert me when I was deployed. I thought that when she said she did not need a man in her life, she meant that she would not fall apart in my absence.
Wow - are there women out there who don't know that men (married or not, and women too) masturbate all the time? This IS 2018 after all. And I don't want to speak for Submariner, but just because she could not have PIV sex doesn't mean she did not also masturbate.
She tried it a couple times after her injury, she found it painful and she did not experience any pleasure from the attempts.
I do not think she ever attempted that before her injury.
Married my HS girlfriend... We dated for 5 years then got engaged for another 4 and have been married for another 8. Never cheated on her with another woman (kissing / sex/ dating /etc..). We lived together in college so there really was not room for temptation.
I've probably seen her almost every day since 2001 except for business trips so there really has been no opportunity for me to cheat. Not saying I'm perfect I just don't give myself the opportunities to stray nor am I really interested in losing half my stuff, my baby girl, and my wife.
So y’all don’t have sex? How does this apply to the topic of celibacy?
Is there anybody else here who practices mutual celibacy, mutual abstinence with their soulmate for religious or medical reasons? In my case, it began as a medical problem but ended up as religious. In other words, the medical problem was actually a blessing. Let those others who share this practice, post about their experiences.
The closest that I can come is refraining from the type of sexual activity that could result in pregnancy due to her medical condition. Even if her religion's book says that all sex should end in a potential pregnancy enabling act.
Married my HS girlfriend... We dated for 5 years then got engaged for another 4 and have been married for another 8. Never cheated on her with another woman (kissing / sex/ dating /etc..). We lived together in college so there really was not room for temptation.
I've probably seen her almost every day since 2001 except for business trips so there really has been no opportunity for me to cheat. Not saying I'm perfect I just don't give myself the opportunities to stray nor am I really interested in losing half my stuff, my baby girl, and my wife.
how does this apply to the topic of celibacy? If you were celibate, you would not have a baby.
Is there anybody else here who practices mutual celibacy, mutual abstinence with their soulmate for religious or medical reasons? In my case, it began as a medical problem but ended up as religious. In other words, the medical problem was actually a blessing. Let those others who share this practice, post about their experiences.
I think that is pretty weird and just a lame excuse to justify you don't like sex with your partner anymore.
What difference does it make to God if you give up sex? Just admit you are impotent and don't hide behind God.
I'm not sure i would believe i was with my soulmate if i was forced to practice mutual celibacy or abstinence. I can't say i believe in soulmates but if he's out there i am pretty sure he's a horny bugger just like me.
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