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Yes I generalized and yes I made a jab at suburbs. Still doesn't change the fact that this mentality is prevalent in your typical cookie-cutter suburban/strip mall Whatevertown, USA.
Most people that reside in these environments aren't known for their out-of-the-box thinking when it comes to relationships. Living in the suburbs my whole life, I've experienced first hand how desperate people are to be "coupled up" for fear of being the odd man out in group gatherings.
Make this reply my second best post on this topic.
I'm a So-Cal guy here and I'm confused...since when was urban anything ever good?
To be honest, I think most people desire love and companionship. I think it's always been this way and I think it will always be this way. If you don't - that's fine but I think that the reason that there is so much emphasis on love and relationships is because that is what most people want out of life.
I'm a So-Cal guy here and I'm confused...since when was urban anything ever good?
We're dipping into the wrong debate here. Most portions of a metro-area, and contiguous metro areas such as from Northern Virginia through Southern Maine, are to some extent "cosmopolitan" and tolerant of career before marriage, of relationships before marriage and so forth. For rural areas and isolated smaller cities/towns, the prevailing mindset is more traditional. "Flyover country" is too much of a pejorative generalization. Chicago, Milwaukee, even St. Louis and Des Moines are going to be markedly different from the hinterlands 50 miles away from the city center.
I think there is a tremendous amount of cultural pressure to conform to societal norms. One of those norms is the standardly-defined romantic relationship. I'm not necessarily opposed to such relationships; but my observations are that far too many people enter into such relationships at the wrong time, with the wrong person, for the wrong reasons, and with the wrong expectations.
It's better to continue on your own personal journey, with the understanding that, from time to time, you'll meet someone with whom you want to travel.
Yeah, probably. Way back when, I dated a lot just because I thought it was the right thing to do. Then I realized that being a free dinner wasn't really all that it was cracked up to be and that I had to take care of other priorities. Most of the Facebooks of those women are less than flattering these days. I realized way too soon that dating people that I would probably later on regret ever knowing existed is pretty bad and I really wouldn't trade working out of the public eye for that.
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