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Old 04-06-2014, 02:40 PM
 
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That is not my idea of a marriage. I would not want to be in her shoes.

It is great that the two of them have more things in common compared to you and her, but since he is not her love, I would not marry him if I was in her shoes.
Not my idea of a marriage either, but people do this all the time.. Especially people who want to settle down and start families. (Surely not every marriage, but it happens..)
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Old 04-06-2014, 02:45 PM
 
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Not my idea of a marriage either, but people do this all the time.. Especially people who want to settle down and start families. (Surely not every marriage, but it happens..)
It's like she hooked up with the first guy that showed up after we stopped being together. She had a couple of boyfriend after that, then met him and they have been together for a few years. She cares for him, I'm sure of that.

I personally don't believe every marriage has to be a major love story.
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Old 04-06-2014, 03:42 PM
 
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Do you people think I should go to the wedding? I just bought the gift yesterday and can't come up with a decision.
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:16 PM
 
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Alppiano....

Just curious, how old are You?

You love this woman, but don't want to enter into a committed relationship.

She admits to loving you, but wants a committed relationship, so she is going to marry someone else.

She will grow old with a companion.

You...will just grow old. Thinking about what might have been.

Something to consider.
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:24 PM
 
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Just curious, how old are You?
I'm 32 and she's 29.


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She will grow old with a companion.

You...will just grow old. Thinking about what might have been.

Something to consider.
I don't mind. As long as she's happy and I'm able to do other things I enjoy, it'll be good. Fortunately, I've plenty of interests to dedicate myself to.
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:27 PM
 
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If You don't want the same things from life, Move on and don't allow people to take advatage of "connection"

"Connections" are only one part of a relationship not the whole.

You will only complicate a very simple issue if you intend to Follow forward with those who are not "on the same page"

It appears to already be happening judging by this threads existence. You don't need to justify not having the same outlook, but ignoring it in favor of personal desires is just writing you bad end before you bothered to start.

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Old 04-06-2014, 04:34 PM
 
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You don't want the same things from life.

Move on and don't allow people to take advatage of "connection"

You will only complicate a very simple issue. Which appears to already be happening judging by this threads existence
What do you mean?
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:38 PM
 
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What do you mean?
I revised my post a little to clarify.

But, I mean personal connection.
You can and will connect to many people in your life. That doesn't automatically make them relationship material.
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:44 PM
 
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I revised my post a little to clarify.

But, I mean personal connection.
You can and will connect to many people in your life. That doesn't automatically make them relationship material.
I get what you mean but I've never connected with anyone the same way I've connected with her. I'm the one who isn't relationship material, though.
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Old 04-06-2014, 04:54 PM
 
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It appears to already be happening judging by this threads existence. You don't need to justify not having the same outlook, but ignoring it in favor of personal desires is just writing you bad end before you bothered to start.
It might seem strange but I believe she'll be better off with him in the long run even though I'm quite sure I love her more than he does.
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