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if a man or woman is willing to have an affair while married then the marriage is on it's way to over soon anyways so i dont think the mistress should be blamed that much.
I have to agree with this post. Affair is the symptom not the problem. And more importantly if he cheats on her then he sure as heck isn't going to be faithful to me.
I have to agree with this post. Affair is the symptom not the problem. And more importantly if he cheats on her then he sure as heck isn't going to be faithful to me.
yes, that's what i meant to say (it didnt come out quite right now that i look at it). BUT, i dont think that just because someone cheats during a marriage that he/she will always be a cheater. the chances are high but i dont think it's a definite.
yes, that's what i meant to say (it didnt come out quite right now that i look at it). BUT, i dont think that just because someone cheats during a marriage that he/she will always be a cheater. the chances are high but i dont think it's a definite.
Ya, you were still stuck in yaya-land when you posted it. I totally get it!
keen eye nicolepsy! I'm a big fan of your posts, keep 'em coming!
I was in a heterosexual marriage for 12 years, then dated women for 10 years and identified myself as a gay woman; currently and for the last 9 years I self-identify as bisexual, with recent dating being men.
Whatever it sounds like trouble. Exactly how does he play with hair.
Think I would just keep my hands over the groin area and smile. Messing around at work is always tricky business even if everybody involved is single and willing.
Married horn dogs are the worse no matter how you get hooked up with them. Find the nearest exit and RUN.
run like hell and tell him to call you when he can wave the divorce papers
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Originally Posted by DiamondD
This situation just developing at work, need some helpful input so I stay out of trouble because it might be headed in that direction....
there's a guy at work, mutual flirtation going on for a few months now, today while chatting he asked me if I'm single, so I think this is great it's moving into the "are you available, do you want to go out" range of conversation. So I let him know i am and he asks me for how long and I say about a year, and of course I ask him "And you? Are you seeing anybody?" since the topic is on the table, and he says he's still married.
Well that threw cold water on the dating scenario (work wise it's OK we're in totally different departments) because I have never dated nor been interested in anyone married or not single in any form, including separated, living together whatever. So I'm ready to just go back to the old chatting say hi in the hall and be fine with that.
But he's keeping on with the flirtation and the touching my hair and telling me how good I look and what kind of movies do you like and it still feel like he's getting ready to ask me out.
My question is this (this is the "wandering into dangerous territory"): Can we still do stuff together and hang out and go to movies and do "friends stuff"? Or is it asking for trouble because it's clear there is a sexual attraction going on here both ways? It's clearly a no-future long term, but if a short-term fun thing presents itself even if it's sexual....and I know he's married. I have no problem with short-term sexual relationships with someone single, but what I've not encountered before EVER is the attentions from someone married and open about it.
Your input is welcome...thanks in advance!
If you are both attracted you will be dating - not friends and soon you will be telling your friends that his wife just doesn't understand her and someday he'll be divorced. Don't do that to yourself....
This situation just developing at work, need some helpful input so I stay out of trouble because it might be headed in that direction....
there's a guy at work, mutual flirtation going on for a few months now, today while chatting he asked me if I'm single, so I think this is great it's moving into the "are you available, do you want to go out" range of conversation. So I let him know i am and he asks me for how long and I say about a year, and of course I ask him "And you? Are you seeing anybody?" since the topic is on the table, and he says he's still married.
Well that threw cold water on the dating scenario (work wise it's OK we're in totally different departments) because I have never dated nor been interested in anyone married or not single in any form, including separated, living together whatever. So I'm ready to just go back to the old chatting say hi in the hall and be fine with that.
But he's keeping on with the flirtation and the touching my hair and telling me how good I look and what kind of movies do you like and it still feel like he's getting ready to ask me out.
My question is this (this is the "wandering into dangerous territory"): Can we still do stuff together and hang out and go to movies and do "friends stuff"?
NO!
And the only reason I am adding this is because NO is too short to post. Not sure how old you are, but many of us have been there. Thinking we were "just friends" until the rude awakening when he made the move.
So to recap, No, No and NO!....... Unless you invite his wife
A funny/stupid anecdote. Someone I was exposed to professionally/socially was younger than I and we would talk about all kinds of things. He would talk about his marriage. The difficulties with his wife being a student and him working, etc., etc. I was flattered that he would seek my guidance.
He came to town once and asked me to take him out to see the town. We went to dinner, more talk about the wife. Of course, as always, I offered my wise words of wisdom. (LOL) Well, when he pinned me against the car at the end of the evening, I was STILL so clueless. I exclaimed, "You will never solve your marital problems if you act like this!"
So, NO! There are too many great guys out there. Great SINGLE guys! The kind that you deserve.
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). BUT, i dont think that just because someone cheats during a marriage that he/she will always be a cheater. the chances are high but i dont think it's a definite.
But does he know these facts.....
