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Old 04-08-2014, 02:59 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Forgive me if this sounds n00bish, but I am just wondering if knowing your potential spouse's sexual orientation really matters. Do you care if your opposite-sex partner is non-heterosexual? Would your opposite-sex partner mind if you were non-heterosexual? What if you have a working non-sexual relationship together? Would that working non-sexual relationship overcome the lack of sexual attraction in a mixed-orientation partnership?
Not sure why is that even a question. Would YOU prefer not to know?
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Old 04-08-2014, 03:05 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I would not want to date a bi or lesbian ever
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Old 04-08-2014, 06:49 AM
 
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As a Hetero man, I am open to a relationship with a bisexual woman. My ex-wife was bi, and that had nothing to do with the divorce.

Being in a relationship with a lesbian seems silly and pointless. Why would I do that?
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Old 04-08-2014, 07:09 AM
 
Location: NY
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I too must be missing something. Why wouldn't someone want to know the orientation of somebody they were thinking of marrying?

It would seem important to know, regardless of how you wanted the relationship to function.
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Old 04-08-2014, 07:15 AM
 
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It matters a lot and yes, I would want to know.
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Old 04-08-2014, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Humboldt County, CA
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I guess so? It doesn't really matter to me, beyond wanting to be sure they're interested in having sex with me.

I've dated straight, bi, and pansexual people, and it's all okay. I'm interested in a partner's sexual history to the extent that I want to know about sexual health, but it's a good idea to both get tested when starting a new sexual relationship regardless.

I'm not hung up on it, but I assume it's something you'll figure out eventually, no matter what. I like that my partner and I both have pretty similar tastes in people, so we can ogle people of both sexes openly and without any jealousy. I wish all couples could be so lucky. ;-)
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Old 04-08-2014, 11:22 AM
 
Location: Terra
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This thread has me more confused than a transexual about their identity.

How can someone be a potential spouse of a hetero if they are not hetero? wtf

Someone give me a lifeline.
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Old 04-08-2014, 11:33 AM
 
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Forgive me if this sounds n00bish, but I am just wondering if knowing your potential spouse's sexual orientation really matters. Do you care if your opposite-sex partner is non-heterosexual? Would your opposite-sex partner mind if you were non-heterosexual? What if you have a working non-sexual relationship together? Would that working non-sexual relationship overcome the lack of sexual attraction in a mixed-orientation partnership?


Kind of a --ahem!!! unique question.



Let me say it this way. If I am going to have sex with my woman, I would prefer it if she was a heterosexual because I am a man. By definition, a heterosexual woman is more likely to enjoy sex with a man than a lesbian would be. I don't want a woman to be in something that really leaves her feeling icky.

As far as friends, I don't care what their sexual orientation is. It is how people behave that I look at. If you can live peacefully with others, then you can be my friend.

Otherwise, if I am with a lesbian, I will most likely have to settle for a non-sexual relationship.
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Old 04-08-2014, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Humboldt County, CA
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This thread has me more confused than a transexual about their identity.

How can someone be a potential spouse of a hetero if they are not hetero? wtf

Someone give me a lifeline.
We're usually pretty clear about our gender identities, thanks.

I'm assuming the question is dealing more with bisexuality, or past experiences. Like, if you're a straight man, would you date a bisexual woman? Would you date a woman who identifies as straight, but may have had sexual experiences with women in the past?
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Old 04-08-2014, 11:41 AM
 
Location: between Mars and Venus
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Forgive me if this sounds n00bish, but I am just wondering if knowing your potential spouse's sexual orientation really matters. Do you care if your opposite-sex partner is non-heterosexual? Would your opposite-sex partner mind if you were non-heterosexual? What if you have a working non-sexual relationship together? Would that working non-sexual relationship overcome the lack of sexual attraction in a mixed-orientation partnership?

Yes it all matters in a potential spouse. That working non-sexual relationship will eventually deteriorate due to lack of sexual attraction. You should just seek someone of your own sexual orietation to have a relationship with.
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