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I love this! This is my kind of date. And roller-skating, either at a rink, or in a park. Talk about fun! And cheap. Or rowing/canoeing/kayaking, with a picnic lunch. Is there a problem here with people lacking imagination? Why is everyone stuck in this dinner-date rut?
I like going to dinner but I don't view it as an expensive date since I don't order expensive entrees and I rarely drink alcohol.
I will couch this response by saying that I am not single, and have not been single for a while. However, if a man asks me out, he darn well better be prepared to pay for the date.That's called good manners, and if you don't have sufficient self-esteem to insist on being treated like a lady, then I guess you are willing to settle for less, but I certainly wouldn't.
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So which one is it? Do women want traditional roles were the man pays for everything and he is expected to be "the man" and we treat the women like damsel in distress, OR are men and women equal and women can do anything a man can do, like the feminist tell us. So therefore woman should be expected to carry their own weight?
I actually agree with this. If he asks me out, then he should be the gentleman and pay for dinner. The same is true, vice versa(although I've never asked a man out on a date and it's worked well for me so far).
I've been off the market for a year, and my boyfriend is very much of the mindset above as well. He almost always insists on paying for dinner, irrespective of who initiated the actual date. However, he's not in the greatest financial position and so sometimes allows me to pay, but only after I adamantly insist that he allow me to. But I believe it's only for this reason.
Lol, yes most women are hypocrites in this regard. They always say "whoever ask should pay", and then they turn around and say Oh, I would never ask a man out, that's the man's job.
So which one is it? Do women want traditional roles were the man pays for everything and he is expected to be "the man" and we treat the women like damsel in distress, OR are men and women equal and women can do anything a man can do, like the feminist tell us. So therefore woman should be expected to carry their own weight?
One woman will agree with your first statement. Another will agree with your second statement. This is because we don't have a hive mentality and think the same things. How do you know which is which? You have to get to know them.
So which one is it? Do women want traditional roles were the man pays for everything and he is expected to be "the man" and we treat the women like damsel in distress, OR are men and women equal and women can do anything a man can do, like the feminist tell us. So therefore woman should be expected to carry their own weight?
You mean which one is it for 20yearsinBranson. She does not speak for all women, and you should not assume that every woman feels the same way about everything just because we all have a common denominator of XX chromosomes.
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Originally Posted by 14Bricks
Lol, yes most women are hypocrites in this regard. They always say "whoever ask should pay", and then they turn around and say Oh, I would never ask a man out, that's the man's job.
Most women? No, only the ones you know, apparently. Remember, just because they're not asking you out, that doesn't mean they aren't asking other men out. Your experience does not speak for every man's any more than 20years' does for every woman's.
Right. But also bear in mind that the first date doesn't have to be anything fancy. It can be just a coffee date. It could be a buffet lunch ($8/plate--who can't afford that?) It could be a gallery-hopping date (free). Think outside the box. Nobody said you have to spend any money at all.
Most women don't think like that, they would call the guy a cheapskate. You seem easy to please, You want to come back to my place for a bucket of chicken and some cheap wine.
Most women don't think like that, they would call the guy a cheapskate. You seem easy to please, You want to come back to my place for a bucket of chicken and some cheap wine.
Maybe. But what's the difference between paying for a coffee date, and going gallery-hopping? A coffee date is virtually free, anyway. I think a lot of women are interested in dates that are fun, and allow for conversation. Some may expect a dinner, but those aren't the ones you'd want to date ultimately, are they?
Most women don't think like that, they would call the guy a cheapskate. You seem easy to please, You want to come back to my place for a bucket of chicken and some cheap wine.
lol. Ewwww!!! A bucket of chicken and boxed wine? At least make it KFC and beer .
This, again, all depends on the woman. If she is low key/low maintenance, then going to a park, having a picnic, going skating, sailing, museum, etc, will be her cup of tea and she's happy. There are women on the opposite end of the spectrum, who want to be wined/dined for dates.
Neither option is better than the other. It's just reflective of how different us women can be .
I'm a Traditionalist. If I'm out on a date I pick up the tab 95% of the time. The woman I go out with are always gracious and appreciative. If I went out with a woman who made considerably more than me I would have to rethink my postion but we would probably take turns. If I was poorer I would probably still treat, just at less expensive places.
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