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I'm not into guys, but if I were and I felt comfortable with him, then yes, I would. It has ended up being a "smart move" the vast majority of the times I have stayed over with women for the first time, whether it was date one or date five. I'm sorry if your experiences have been different.
Not sure why this is relevant, but for the sake of humoring you, I'm male.
I'm not attacking you. I thought you were female. Being that you are a guy, it's great that you are one of the trustworthy ones. As a woman, I have had both good and bad experiences with men, but in this day and age I don't trust any man to stay over after only two dates. It's a rule of thumb for me. Women these days have to be very careful.
I'm not attacking you. I thought you were female. Being that you are a guy, it's great that you are one of the trustworthy ones. As a woman, I have had both good and bad experiences with men, but in this day and age I don't trust any man to stay over after only two dates. It's a rule of thumb for me. Women these days have to be very careful.
I get what you're saying, but I guess I just wouldn't date anyone, regardless of my gender (or sex) or theirs, if I didn't find them to be trustworthy. I'd be moving on to someone else.
I get what you're saying, but I guess I just wouldn't date anyone, regardless of my gender (or sex) or theirs, if I didn't find them to be trustworthy. I'd be moving on to someone else.
Right, but what I'm saying is that many people appear to be trustworthy in the beginning, but actually aren't. People say Ted Bundy came across as extremely trustworthy, kind, approachable. Some people put on a very convincing act to get what they want.
Right, but what I'm saying is that many people appear to be trustworthy in the beginning, but actually aren't.
I guess I've had pretty good look trusting my gut. I screen people pretty well-- Not perfectly, of course, but that risk is part of dating. Even when it hasn't worked out, I can't think of times where I've really regretted staying the night with someone to such an extent that I wouldn't do it again with the right person.
Sorry but TWO dates? That is NOT enough time to know somebody and trust them enough to invite them to stay overnight. This guy could be ANYBODY, OP didn't say whether or not she knew him prior.
Ain't no way in h*ll I'm inviting someone to stay after the second date. You'd see me on the next episode of Dateline.
I agree. I have almost always dated men that I already knew from school, work, social circle....if I had two dates with a guy I did not know prior?
No way would I feel I knew him well enough to stay the night at my home - especially pulling a dick move getting too drunk to drive and using that as an obvious ploy to get me to let him stay.
In that instance, I would know at the end of the date the guy is a douche!
I guess I've had pretty good look trusting my gut. I screen people pretty well-- Not perfectly, of course, but that risk is part of dating. Even when it hasn't worked out, I can't think of times where I've really regretted staying the night with someone to such an extent that I wouldn't do it again with the right person.
It's not quite as dangerous being the male. I imagine you are not terribly worried about getting raped or something.
Let's say you are on a second date. Your date drinks too much wine, and says he's too drunk to drive home, so he wants to stay at your place.
Do you feel bad for him and allow it, even though you would not otherwise invite him up on the second date? Or do you say, too bad, it was your choice to drink so much?
Second date? Guy gets himself drunk? Taxi. For yourself to get home. How he gets home is up to him.
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